Struggle getting out of the house 🇬🇧

I'm currently on maternity leave with my soon to be 10 month old baby. I've found myself in a bit of a rut lately - all of my maternity friends have gone back to work, other non-mum friends are obviously working, tried to make new friends and failed haha. In the summer I got out loads, but recently with the rubbish weather it's the last thing I want to do. Plus my 10 month old isn't sleeping well, so I often want to use his nap times for me to nap too. Problem is - I'm barely having adult interaction, barely leaving the house - I'm cooped up and feeling shit. I don't need to leave the house, and don't really have money to spend on doing things with him. I feel bad for him, and I feel bad myself because I'm just stuck staring at walls! Half the time I can't even be arsed to get out for a 20 minute walk. Anyone else feeling the struggle? Any tips for breaking the cycle and finding my sanity again?
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I was exactly the same over the winter when I was on maternity leave. I think the better weather that is hopefully on its way will naturally make it easier as you'll see the sunshine outside and WANT to go for a walk, rather than convincing yourself that you SHOULD. Other than that, is it an option to sign little one up to some kind of class that you pay for upfront? I found if I'd paid for something I would absolutely make the effort to go out for it in a way that I wouldn't for a playgroup or similar.

Exactly the same and waiting on weather to get better to start going for regular walks again and can't wait. Have tried children's centres for groups but they fall on baby girls nap times so not happening either. I have my adult interaction on video calls with my girls and friends/family visit and come over. Maybe you could start off slowly and do a weekend with ur partner and then carry on from there perhaps?

I remember being the same. Force yourself to get out for a walk, it breaks up the day and is so good mentally (although I know how hard it is to do this) My local library has a sensory room that you can book out for half an hour and it’s just you in there. Not sure if yours has this but it was a blessing at times

I felt like this early on in my postpartum journey and realized getting out was key. If I go 2-3 days without getting out. I feel myself slipping back into it. I 100% know what you mean. Baby steps, you can do it. I find just one outing makes me remember how much good it does.

I find it hard sometimes for sure, although I've been let down twice this week by friends, which has been fun 🙄. Don't rely on other people, find some cheap or free baby/toddler groups and drag yourself out

See if your local library do a baby group, I went to one by me weekly and was a help! M&S also do their baby coffee morning Tuesdays, get a free cake when buy any hot drink. Just nice to get out the house without spending alot!

I’ve had days like this and I really think it’s the weather! But you just have to think about getting out the house for him and not you - it’s easier to motivate yourself if it’s for them! Do you drive? I just walk around the shops and don’t really buy anything but she loves people watching and looking at all the things, or we go to a coffee shop so I’m just buying myself a drink. I get the train into town if my partner has the car for work. I know it’s rubbish weather but you just have to make the best of it. Hang in there X

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