How to tell her not happening without being rude?

I would say that you have things booked with friends on most days in the said two week frame (like mums groups or something) and so when hubs is back suits best

You shouldn't have to deal with the in laws without your husband. Plain and simple. That's a heavy load. I'm sure he wouldn't want to spend time with your family alone.. that's reason enough and he should be giving the answer to his own parents...

Just be up front and let her know that it’s not a good time, that you’re taking this time to prepare to move and you’re enjoying the 1 on 1 with your little one 💕

Hey thanks for asking. This time won’t work for us but (some other time) would be great! You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Stand your ground.

@Alice I’m shocked because this actually worked??? But now the real test is if she’s gonna show up anyways claiming to just drop something off

at least she asks when it’s a good time to come over . My mil just says I’m coming over this weekend or whatever … I hate it !!!! I’m working on cutting that shit out But in ur case I would simply tell her when u want them to come over , no explanation for why not the weekend they want ..

My mil used to just come over whenever and demand shit on the phone, also when she got here would ask me if I had anywhere to be?.... i immediately stopped talking to her directly and made my husband main point of contact between us and that never happens anymore. Before my daughter was born she said she wanted to see the baby all the time because her other son didn't let her do whatever she wanted either...she shot herself in the foot. She's not a bad person at all but, they had their glory days already chill out lol

@Luz oh my MIL used to do that a lot, and sometimes still will show up anyways saying she’s just “dropping something off” (unnecessary food/toilet paper so helpful but wasn’t asked for or needed). That mostly stopped one day early pp when I was still trying to breastfeed (EP now due to baby not wanting to stay on boob) I was dumb enough to leave the door unlocked and she let herself in WITHOUT EVEN KNOCKING. Came into me essentially naked except for a diaper with my newborn on the boob. I screamed, woke up my napping husband who had been up with our baby since 3am and told him he had to deal with her. I stayed in the bedroom with baby so she didn’t get the visit that she wanted. But now if she pulls that I only answer the door if I know she’s heard us/seen us through the window. Sometimes I will see her on our ring doorbell while babe is napping and wait for her to go away. The incident was a good reminder to ALWAYS lock my door

@Danica yeah MIL is definitely mourning what she thought grand parenthood would be. Funny thing is she’d have pretty much the exact type of relationship she’d want if she hadn’t 180’d her personality and gone crazy the moment we announced. My friends and I laugh at how I’d said “I wouldn’t mind living with the in laws postpartum for their help with the baby” - all before being pregnant mind you. Now I don’t want to be anywhere near them!

Maybe I'm missing something, but what's wrong with her popping over for like an hour or so? Is it such a big deal? I don't get it! She doesn't have to stay a whole weekend or even a whole day!

@Rebecca while the text message seems “nice” it’s because I’ve shown previous rude texts to hubs. When MIL and FIL come over they belittle me, talk bad about me to my daughter and do anything they can to ignore my rules. I won’t put up with it anymore. They’ve been stepping on my toes about every little thing since becoming pregnant and I’m so over it. If I cave with one hour this time she’s going to keep pushing for multiple visits while hubs is away and they will get longer and longer