What would you do? Custody

If you can get sd to school on time with her homework completed, there is no reason why the recommendation shouldn't stand. You can also have a "schedule" at your house. If bm is reasonable, ask for specific ways you can replicate the schedule at your house so sd has a consistent routine. Be sensitive to bm's concerns. Not getting any weekend days with your kid throughout the year is hard. Maybe she has big Sunday dinners, maybe that's when she sees or calls her parents, who knows? Have dad see if she would prefer Thursday to Sunday. Or would be interested in trading days sometimes. You aren't unreasonable for wanting the time, but be open-minded on how to get there while you are going through the process. Good luck 🍀

@Bonny Nope shee does not and is doing it with reason because she agreed the schedule was perfect and still said no the reason we filed in the first place is because she wasnt allowing us to see her and if wanted to see her She said we could take her to court her words exactly shes not a one to reason kind of person we have gone through lawyer because speaking with reason isnt a thing for her i wish it was because it would make this process so much easier for everyone We also offered week on week off and 2-2-3 and she has shut down every single choice we given her because she want to control the lawyer and the court has seen its about power for her

Your suggestions are being shut down because it’s not what and how she wants it to be. It’s her child and often moms feel like they hold more parental rank than the father . It is hard for everyone involved especially for the child because often one parent will get the shorter end of the stick when it comes to custody and that parent is normally dad. So the child will be missing out unless all of you can come up with a compromise that focuses on the best interest of the child unbiased. If not then the courts will make the decision one neither of you may like. Example, my stepson mom took my husband to court in hopes of my husband only getting one weekend out of the month but he was granted first, second, fourth weekend of the month and wednesdays from 5pm to 7pm . the schedule in place before my stepson was in school was a 2/2/3 schedule and she refused for it to go 50/50 when the mediator asked. It definitely is hard.

@Domunique oh my im so sorry to hear thank you for sharing that honestly is really helpful more than you think. Thats honestly what i feel could happen. Ive been thinking it over and putting our interests asides also has to mean giving up a day and not risk it being worse. We did at least request days off from school we can get her an extra day we think she will agree. Well at least we hope🤦🏽‍♀️

Idk how old she is but over a certain age the child has more say so you could use that to your advantage if she wants more time with her dad you could even try for every other week like full week

@Autumn yes actually shes has expressed countless time and time again she wants more time with us shes 7 currently 8 in the summer