What do I dooo?

I’d tell her just what you said here. “I appreciate the intention but with the LO’s being high risk of becoming sick I can’t risk it as I can’t afford it. Lets reschedule or do something else when everyone is feeling better”

I’m about to have my first child and my mom has a cough but hasn’t been sick in 3 weeks and she won’t come to my labor because she doesn’t wanna risk getting me or my baby sick so they shouldn’t mind at all and should understand where you’re coming from

@Espy it was a two in one celebration, so it was my bils birthday meal as well. But regardless I shouldn’t risk it isn’t it? As I will be the one left with sick kids and vulnerable family members when sick. The family member was just admitted to hosp 2 days ago as well due to chest infection so I really can’t risk. But they might think it’s offensive

@Espy and congratulations on your baby♥️❤️

I say this with all kindness if they are offend then that's on them and not for you to worry about. Your responsibility is to your children, the family you live with and yourself. It's an unfortunate situation and something that can't be helped. I would tell them that you can't risk getting the children sick and whoever going back into the hospital right now. That you really appreciate everything that might have already been put together and as stated above when everyone is feeling better you would like to get together then instead.

@Sarah thank you so much 😭 my son does attend nursery so they may say what’s the difference but at least I’m not sending him knowingly that he will 100% get something isn’t it. It’s a different situation? X

Yes I think sending him to nursery is a different situation altogether. From you post a gather you work and you need someone to watch your child so you can provide. IF he happenes to catch something there that's just how it goes. I'm sure if the called you and said some kids there were sick you wouldn't take him having that prior knowledge. Also they monitor the kids and don't let openly sick kids stay so they are minimizing the risk.

@Sarah yeah exactly! I wouldn’t knowingly. My husband is also going through mental health and is out of work so It’s already a very stressful situation and I definitely can’t afford to keep calling sick as I’m the main breadwinner now as well as the main parent. And besides this if the family member catches it it’s gonna be even more stress as he is very vulnerable as he’s also on steroid treatments due to the latest chest infection. Thank you ever so much for your support, truly appreciate 😭 It’s a lil frustrating as we were talking since the morning but they didn’t disclose until we were deciding about food and I happen to have already bought the cake

🫂 Sounds like your already going through so much don't worry to much about it. Hang in there and I wish you and your family all the best 🩷

I don’t think you should worry. It’s your brother in laws celebration too so any plans they’ve made/ people attending can still go ahead with them if they wish and you can reschedule to celebrate the little one another day. And even though you’ve bought a cake, maybe you can still use it and do your own little celebration at home today as not to waste it 🙂 like you said going to nursery unaware if others are ill is not the same as knowingly turning up somewhere people are ill. X

If they have chest infection and have been on antibiotics at least 24 hours they will no longer be infectious xx

@Jade not necessarily, its really common to have a viral infection and develop a secondary bacterial infection. So they could still be viral and contagious.

Surely the sick person should not attend a child’s birthday party? If they live at the address can it not be postponed a week?

Depends what they’re sick with. A simple cold or cough I’d still go.

@Sarah yes I’ve actually asked what’s wrong and she’s read but not replying