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Idk how old your child is but it’s normal for woman to have depression, anxiety etc after pregnancy… it takes 2 years for our hormones to return to “normal” so I feel like it’s unfair to give this assessment before that time? Unless the mom is showing signs of ppp..
Why did you need to take one to begin with? I’ve never heard of a parenting assessment, could someone elaborate what that is and what it entails.
I’m so sorry you have to go through this it’s everyone’s worst nightmare with mental health but reading the document it seems they are holding the children’s best interests. It mentions DV and how children shouldn’t be subjected and I agree because I’ve been there and wish someone stepped in for us. If it’s one sided I hope you can find a way to leave and protect those babies in a better environment. Is there a way for the child to be placed with family as you guys work on these programs that they have recommended? I’m not judging at all as my mom was taken from us for a while as she was court ordered for her mental health as well
Hey, so sorry you are going through this. Also, hope you are safe and are not at risk of harm.
Firstly, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I don't know much about UK laws or support services, but there should be (free) legal and other services available to help you navigate this. Reading between the lines of the assessment it sounds like social services is more concerned about your husband's domestic abuse than your mental health. Would you consider separating from your husband for a time? I realise that may feel (or actually be) impossible, but it may encourage social services to let your little one stay with you or return to you sooner. Do you have family or friends nearby who could help? In Australia at least social services try to place kids with other relatives or community members if possible. That way he can be closer while you get things sorted. I can only imagine the pain and anxiety you're feeling. Hopefully someone who sees this post is local and can point you to the right support services.
Praying for you and your family
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@Jasmine thank you
@Tatiana he’s 4 months
@Eviee because of my first child being in care I’ve had another child different fathers I was diagnosed with non organic psychosis and domestic violence to keep my child we had to pass a 12 week residential parenting assessment offered to us by the court local authority due to social services
@Natalia thank you for your fair response the assessor has said if we can meet all these recommendations then we can keep the child
@Lynn I’m ok there’s a bit of emotional abuse but it’s verging towards a break up
@Anja my mum was assessed she was positive for my first however negative for my last born
@Sarah thank you
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@Danni byrne ok x
Ooh wow, That’s amazing that they do, they need to implement this in the USA. It would save a lot of kids lives. I hope your situation is resolved for the better love.
@Eviee I hope so too just waiting for a court date every day
Ohh my love this is hard to read. Hardships in mental health DO NOT make you a bad mama. It’s someone’s job to write up a report like this but it’s not indicative of who you are as a soul. Struggling with mental health does not mean you cannot care for your baby. It means you need some extra love and support, so you can give your little one all they need. They say “it takes a village” but judge every mama that doesn’t have access to a helpful village. Stay strong and do what you’ve got to - please message me if you need to vent xxxx
Hey I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm praying for you and your family.