do you get a lie in often? cause i dont 😢

i am a stay at home mum of 2.5 years. Husband works mon-fri 9:30-5:30pm (with LOTS of breaks) i very very rarely get to lie in. every single day i am woken up at 7am (ish) by my toddler. i do all day with said toddler, do bedtime with toddler & then spend a few hours with husband before going to bed. i also do 99.99% of the housework. he used to cook tea every night but these days its more me. friday - i wake up at 6:45 with toddler. i wake husband up at 9:15am he goes to do something with his mum, returns home at about 2pm & starts work. finishes at 6pm. toddlers in bed at 7. i make tea, do the dishes & cleaning etc & go to bed. no help. saturday - i wake up at 6:50 with toddler, husband up at 9:30 so i can go for my smear test at 10. i come home, husband has a nap on the couch. 5pm we head out to a party on his side of the family. i leave at 7pm with toddler for his bed time. do dishes tidy up etc. husband stays until 10-11pm ish comes home goes to bed. sunday (today) toddler wakes up at 7am, so i ask my husband are you getting up with him today? ‘i will now’…. 10 mins later i ask again, ‘i said i will now’ i tell him its been 10 mins he says bullshit. so i get up, i get the toddler & head downstairs. as soon as i get up HE gets up. i change the toddler, do bfast etc etc. husbands then just lay on the couch & gone back to sleep. its half 9 now and hes still asleep. i woke him up and said today should have been my lie in & he said to me why is it? when did HE last have a lie in……… im up at LEAST 2 hours before him everyday, my ‘work’ day lasts 24 fucking hours a day, im exhausted. one lie in a week without having to fight for it wouldnt go amiss but no. ive come to the conclusion hes a selfish cunt. needed to get that off my chest before j suffocated him with his little fkn blanket 😂

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Gosh reading this post just annoys me. And the fact that he doesn’t work weekends, then he should be more involved in helping you for those days. Guys are lazy & they just think for themselves. You need to do yourself a favour and just say you got an “appointment” or something on the weekend and leave the toddler with him. Go for a walk, get your nails done, meet up with a friend or something, just for a few hours for yourself. Got to be harder on him. Because then you’re burning yourself out. Can’t be a mum 24/7 all day everyday, he’s a parent too, he has responsibilities roles too. And I like the ending. Loool secretly please do. 😊😂 xo

He is 1000% a selfish cunt, I'm livid for you!

Honestly it was the same situation before my daughter started sleeping longer and it made me so angry. Had so many arguments about it. Nothing changed. I still believe free time should be shared equally. Unpaid work is still work. You both get one lay in at the weekend. Care should be shared together or take an evening/ afternoon in turn. Tell him which day is yours for a lie in and if he doesn't keep it stop making him dinner. Leave his laundry. He can do his share one way or another.

Yeah, he’s selfish. I’m also a SAHM but my situation is entirely different. My eldest woke every 2 hours every single night until she was 2.5 and even now wakes 2-3 times a night. Then we had a second. I EBFd both babies, yet my husband was still able to help during the night in shifts at first. When we had our second he took over all toddler night wakes and did her bedtime, and took the kids in the morning so I could lie in every day he was able (he worked shifts, so sometimes late, others early). Now he does both bedtimes and all night wakes for both children as they’re older now (4 and almost 2) and the second generally sleeps through the night. He also takes them out when he is off to the park/church/library/soft play/shopping etc. to give me time to myself. Honestly this is just being an equal parent and I wouldn’t accept less 🤷‍♀️

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