Bio mom hasn’t had a car in years and doesn’t plan on getting one

My stepkids mom hasn’t had a car in at least 2 or so years now and seemingly doesn’t plan to get one. She will occasionally borrow her bfs mom’s car but even when she has it she doesn’t really do any transportation for the kid. She’s taken her to and from school a total of 2-3 times now despite there being opportunity to do more. Like today she had the car and could’ve taken her to school but instead we had to and she had the audacity to rush us. Or like last week during mom’s time, when we had to wait over 20 minutes for someone to answer the door for the kid because she decided to go shopping. If you had the car why didn’t you pick your kid up from school? It just comes off as why would I if you guys will? We do all the transportation to and from school, all doctor appointments even the ones mom schedules out of state for some reason, and all transportation for exchanges. It’s honestly a burden, I could see if it was just when she’s with us but we have to drive across town multiple times a day almost every day. Has anyone been in this position before and what did yall do about it? Is this something the courts can see as a reason for modification?

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I'd give her a date (maybe 2-3 weeks in advance so she has time to prepare) that you will stop providing this service. If she can't reliably get her child to school or to the doctor, I think that would be a great reason to modify the order.

I agree with Bonny.

I agree with what @Bonny said. It is her responsibility to get the kids to school on her days and appointments. If she can’t do that then the kids should stay with the parent that can get them to school during the week.

@Christina @Bonny @Rema She stated if we don’t take her to school she will be riding the bus. Which doesn’t address most issues and he doesn’t want for two reasons. Her mom has a hard time even being ready at the house for drop off so how likely is she to be at the bus stop on time and secondly the bus has kids as old as 14 which has caused so many issues in the district that they’re looking to rearrange the schools and stepkid is only 4. I’ll have him look into lawyers

Yes. Look into lawyers. She’s not reliable and doesn’t sound like a safe parent either. Make sure you have evidence as well.

@Rema We’ve got text msgs from mom and can get statements from her teachers if needed.

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