Is this okay or a red flag.

Super hard to accurately judge from a written description (for me anyway). I feel like I'd need to see a video. It does sound weird, yeah, but it could be totally innocent.

Kids have a limited number of trusted adults in their lives that can recognize such things. It’s good that you are near and can keep a lookout. If something is wrong, maybe you will end up being the one who helps her.

@Grayson I’m a bit concerned but will keep an eye out. I don’t know if I have enough to report. Also I don’t have proof of anything per se. Like maybe it’s just a weird thing and not actual facts of something being wrong. I would hate to put her back in the system for that. However if she’s experiencing harm I would love to help her. I hope it’s just a weird thing. It was extremely difficult to witness.

@Ella wish I took one but not sure if it would be clear due to my screen and the distance. However I got my sister and husband to see if it was concerning and they agreed. The way he went about it just didn’t make sense. I never seen him do this with his other children when teaching them. So it’s all weird. Not even the mom when she’s teaching them. It’s strange looking for sure.

This sounds very weird. Please please keep a close eye and report if needs be.

This has multiple red flags. I would make a report. They can decide wether it merits further investigation. For all we know the paper trail has already been started.

Probably would have been a shit storm if he caught you filming anyway. Keep an eye on it. Girls in care are massively susceptible to abuse, particularly if they are already victims of SA.

Please report and have some one check in on this little girl ❤️‍🩹

Maybe put up like some cameras around your house, and they'll pick up something? We had cameras before we moved around just in case, so maybe???

I’d definitely report, if all is fine no harm done but if it’s not and you don’t…

I would report this. That doesn’t sound normal. I’d rather be wrong than find out I could have helped this poor girl.

@Marian she’s homeschooled I doubt it.

@Lor I hear what you’re saying and will of course keep an eye out and do what I can. However I’m not the one to blame for whatever is going on there. Him and his wife is.

@Hind I want to report but I feel uncomfortable. I don’t want them to know it was us. They are homeschooled and I feel like it would directly point to us. Especially with the details of the story. My anxiety is on 1000 right now. Never been in this type of situation. Any recommendations?

Report to police or safeguarding team in your area

Of course it’s not your fault, I never said or implied that it was, what I was saying was if you don’t report it who knows what horrors could happen, that’s not obviously your fault but you do have the power to report it 😊

I'd defo report, you can mention your worry about it seeming like it was you when you report it as well and they might reassure you. Better to be safe than sorry

An anonymous tip might not hurt just to have it checked out?

So many people ignore these things I just found out in a human development class at my university that over 2 million cases of abuse go reported a year but less than 200k are founded because the adults deny deny deny and in all reality it’s always the closest ones abusing them— as someone who has experienced sa as a child from a family member I see this as a huge red flag, and at the end of the day I would report it but that’s me personally. I also feel like if they have nothing to hide it’s okay to report it. The child will show through behavior and actions how they are being abused though. Any true professional can see it.