Am I in the wrong?

Saturday my fiancés family decided to pierce my four year old daughter’s ears without my permission, when I was at work. I had previously stated to my fiancé that I would LIKE to have her ears pierced, however, at the doctor’s office and in my presence. He took this simply as “She wants our daughter’s ears pierced.” So when he went to his cousins house for a party HE GOT THEM PIERCED WITH AN EAR PIERCING GUN and then posted about it on social media. Of course, I got upset and confronted the whole family on their group chat about it and took the earrings out. They gaslit me the whole time, and said I wanted her ears pierced, but NO ONE.TOLD. ME. Not her dad, not her cousin that did the piercing, no one. I was then attacked and told I was “tacky” for talking about the situation on the family chat. My daughter’s dad finds out and gets mad that I did that (absolutely disgusting he didn’t defend me, but instead gaslit me as well) and tries to go off on me. I ignore him. His mom then calls me and yells at me to put the earrings back in, I say no and tell her to shut up. She tells me the kids must not be his then and to stop talking to her. His aunt then decides to take the initiative to contact his mom and reveal that I told her in secrecy about his little sister’s pregnancy that was being kept a surprise for the family ( which I absolutely regret telling her now). She was trying to be vindictive. How cute. His sister then calls rightfully upset that I said anything and starts crying and yelling at me. That being said all this over earrings. So tell me am I in the wrong? (Besides the sister pregnancy thing ofc)