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My partner avoided intimacy during pregnancy! So we didn't have sex for 9 months!
My husband was the same. So we didn’t have sex during my first pregnancy and then only a couple of times in my second. I’d speak to him and ask his reasons but ultimately if he doesn’t want to then you need to respect that decision and try not to take it personally (easier said than done I know)
Other way around for me. I was the one denying sex due to being pregnant. I'd have a conversation and see what compromise yall can come to. There's plenty of non penetrative sex acts that can be performed.
My husband was the same out of fear of hurting the babies. We were high risk and dealt with infertility for 12 years. So he was very careful.
Both of us didn’t want to have sex whilst I was pregnant so we avoided it completely
My husband was literally so scared until he talked to my midwife about it further into my pregnancy. He was fine until he could see my belly moving.😂😂😂🤦🏻♀️
I'd encourage my partner to talk through it with me. It could be a concern about hurting baby. It could be a concern about "i can't focus on doing "IT" with you knowing baby is in there" or, honestly, even changes to your smell. I remember in my 1st pregnancy I tasted different and I knew this because when my wife came up to kiss me I could taste it it wasn't bad but it wasn't the usual. I asked her and she said it was different but that she still liked it. And I remember at like 6 maybe 7mths we were having sex and baby was fricken moving everywhere and iiii couldn't focus so we stopped and then we didn't attempt sex again until like 4 mths AFTER birth 😭😭🤣🤷🏾♀️ I'm sorry though because I know it hurts but it's worth a discussion. If its just that he really can't because he can't get out of his head maybe you guys can talk about other ways you can be intimate. It doesn't always have to be sexual this way you still feel wanted/desired. ❤️
Some people just don’t like sex during pregnancy. It can be upsetting, but that’s his choice to make. Can you both find other ways to be intimate?
Yeah, I have a very bad griddle pain during pregnancy and my baby was kicking so hard and it’s hard for both of us to be intimate during pregnancy Every time we try it was a failure 😣
My partner stopped being intimate with me after I started getting more of a bump as he was scared of hurting me or the baby
My husband had the experience during both of my pregnancies, when he could already feel the baby kicking, he no longer wanted to have intimacy, so from about 30 weeks until postpartum, there was practically nothing
My coworker said she went 9 months without because they tried for so hard and so long for a baby that her husband wasn’t willing to take any risks. I know most sources say sex is perfectly safe, but I’ve had a history of things going awry from sex during pregnancy so I’m very nervous about it. My first pregnancy, my water broke at 32 weeks… during sex. Could have been a coincidence but I have a little PTSD from it lol. Twice I’ve had bleeding from sex during pregnancy, and twice this pregnancy I lost a bit of my mucus plug after sex (pretty early on too, so it was a bit concerning). My husband has respected it as he understands my fear (after all it’s his kid too). So yeah we’ve been taking it pretty easy lately. That being said, given the opportunity he’d probably be wanting to do it all the time lol. We talked about it once and he wanted me to know he doesn’t have like a pregnancy fetish or anything like that but that he still finds me very attractive while pregnant 🤷🏻♀️
If anything my partner was more interested in sex during my pregnancy. Have you talked to him about why he feels this way? As long as you haven't had any complications with your pregnancy, sex is typically completely safe.