Do you sometimes feel guilty about separating you husband? Only because you see him stressed?

My husband and I have been married 9 years, however i decided to separate because his has a bad temper, a complainer. No patience AT ALL, so he will do things that I never felt good about it, he always made me feel unheard, and at times I fear him, he would constantly erase his voice even to me. So other things that I decided to NO MORE, enough is enough, However, why do I feel guilty and sad for see him stressed, He never handle a bill and now has to start dealing with many things he did not handle. Why I am worrying now? Should I be nice and guide him the things I used to handle ?

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You feel bad because you probably took care of everything to not deal with his stress and now are still struggling with the impulse to relieve him of said stress.

You feel guilty because you are trauma bonded to him You did the right thing by leaving

It depends…is your name or ssn linked to any of those bills? If so then yes, help. Because if not your credit will go to shit if he isn’t able to figure it all out and misses payments. That’s the only reason I would though

@Emily we always divided the bills, so what he pays is under his name the issues is he does not know how to log in, I do it for him. He is now struggling to change a few things, he wants to ask me, but he won’t. My bills are all under my name and I normally pay them.

@Ella I am feeling the guilt, he is making this complicated because he still loves me however my love for him is not the same, as I explained to him what i experienced with his all those years, I fear him now, I can’t trust him completely, he can be rude, and just mean. When he is around I reject him and for the same reason I prefer to go separate way cause I don’t want to be selfish. But damn I can’t stop feeling guilty. But YES YOU ARE RIGHT, I am happy with my decision

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