Husband taking care of the baby

Mine gets very fustrated when he hears the crying so of course that will make our child cry more til I get him

I would get bad PP rage with my husband in the early months with our girl, sometimes he would call for me and I’m like really dude try something please, I really had to talk to him about my rage and how much I was resenting him and I didn’t want too we got through it , its hard AF especially if it’s your first baby imo. I think you’re feelings are valid but if your up for him try to have some open communication and tell him how you feel etc!

Honestly, they just don’t have our standards. My husband is absolutely amazing, but I do nitpick at everything. And certain things can be frustrating. Where our priorities will always be our babies men are just different. I have to give serious clear instructions! Also don’t feel bad for anything you have to do to get through motherhood, so don’t feel bad if you feed your baby to sleep it’s not for long my love. My boobs also settle my baby 🙈

@Selyna I was the same!

Men *some just don't have the patience unfortunately or skills even. Maybe when baby is bigger perhaps, my little falls asleep on dad's lap in front of the TV occasionally and that's okay as I know my baby won't settle In the bedroom with him as they end up messing around and baby running around upstairs 😭

I think the main thing is he tries - may not be right but at least he's hands on unlike some. My husband is brilliant with our boys but they are very much mams boys so he doesn't get much luck 🤣 and he gets easily frustrated himself as much as the baby amd me. It'll come with some learning some dad's just take a little longer but yes I get the frustration, sometimes I'm in the bath or cooking and I can hear it all going down in the bedroom 🤣 I'm like ffs, ill just don't myself and attend to the baby which I don't think helps me in the long run, but i can't stick it. Be nice to just say good night and hand it over to dad sometimes but he just hasn't got that settle down soothing technique us muns got 👌🏼 x

It took me a long time after having my first to learn to stop myself when I immediately wanted to swoop in and comfort my crying baby when my husband was holding her. I learned that I needed to let him figure out what would work for them because what worked for me calming her didn't work for him and he just needed to figure out his own way of comforting her and putting her to bed. And now he's an expert at it. And he's figured out his own way to comfort baby #2 and put him to bed too. I just needed to stay out of the way even though it hurt my mama heart to hear the cries.

Yes to all of this! I try really hard not to get frustrated because I know he is trying, but it’s like he thinks I have some magical powers that allow me to do things with the baby that he can’t. It’s like dude - I didn’t go to parent school without you or something I’ve learned through trial and error! I just want to yell at him sometimes like that’s obviously not working just try something else

Sometimes the boob doesn't settle my daughter and I want to hand her off to dad 😩 he can settle her without boobs, but with me thats all she wants

@Jada oh so sorry Momma! I know the baby feels their bad energy that why they can’t settle.

@Selyna i feel like I have postpartum rage too! I didn’t get sad but the rage is crazy, every little thing annoys me and i snap to my husband which causes arguments. Yes this is our first baby too. I’ve been telling him all the techniques i’ve learned to soothe him without nursing, like bouncing on yoga ball,playing with his hair, gentle strokes on his eyebrows but I feel like he never took notes😐

@Rima thank you! Sometimes he tells me like it was my fault for nursing him to sleep. I feel bad but that works like a charm to me so I can’t stop 🥲 and yes my husband is great with handling other stuff in the house but not with our son 😩 sometimes i just needed a break but even my breaks are in a rush

@Michelle yeah maybe when he playing and running around they can bond better. He’s still so little just turned 4months

@Catherine yes, he tries but the baby gets overtired because he can’t fall asleep or won’t stop fussing. Oooh tell me about it! When I’m in the shower I can hear him crying and breaks my heart so i end up rushing. Also It’s so hard to be nice when it’s 3am and the baby woken up and all my husband has to do is feed him and put him back to sleep but in the end I get up and do the job. 😬but i’ll try to control myself from taking over 🥲

@Lori i will try not to step in right away next time and see if that helps. 😭 I know my fight or flight mode gets activated when I hear him cry.

@Allie exactlyyy!!! It’s like just be creative do something you think will make him fall asleep. Lol. And what also makes me mad is that they can’t tell whether the baby needs a nap or hungry. Like he’s been awake for 3hrs, obviously he’s crying because he didn’t get a nap yet. 🥲😭

@Melissa oh nooo, i find bouncing on a yoga ball gently while holding my son settles him quick. Maybe something you can try next time? I just learned that recently.

Has he watched the baby alone for an extended period of time?

@Brittany max is like 2-3hrs. But he gets so fussy and overtired so I take him after that.