Naughty or is it something else

My little girl had started acting up everything is no or a tantrum with hitting and kicking x

We are and I completely feel now you feel. I’m just drained because I feel like I’ve tried everything and read all the parenting forums etc and nothing seems to work (obviously haven’t hit him or hurt him and never will). My HV says it’s a tough phase as there is so much development going on and it will get better and we will come out of it - it just feels never ending at the moment x

It’s strange because I’ve noticed the change in my little one as she started nursery but maybe it’s because she’s learning new things at nursery and she’s frustrated x

Autonomy. That is all he wants. He is at that stage where he wants to make his own decisions and he feels overwhelmed and not sure how best to act, si he hits etc. I had the same with my daughter. Here's some stuff I did with her and she has changed MASSIVELY!!!! 1. what next.... i would always explain to her what is coming up next. We will have dinner, then get in the bath, then put on pj's, then read 4 books and then it is lights out. 2. I bought i what's next board from shein, put images on and she peels the images off as we complete the tasks. That way she knows exactly what is coming next. 3. Clothes. I select a few options that matches and let her choose. Use words like . Do you want this top or this top? You choose. 4. If she won't go to the bath to get ready for bed, I'll say... Do you want to go to the bath now, or straight to bed and lights out? Your choice? She will always prefer the bath than lights out.

5. Would you like to eat dinner in the kitchen or the lounge. Your choice? I don't ask if she wants to eat or tell her to eat. She has no choice, she has to. But she can choose where she wants to eat. 6. Would you like to play in the park or at soft play today? You choose. 7. Also, don't just turn off the tv and tell him to go upstairs. Always give warnings. You can watch tv for 5 more minutes and then we go to bath OK? If he says no, then tell him, either we turn the tv off now, or you watch 5more minutes and then we go. Ok? Yes mommy. And then I put my timer on for 5minutes until the alarm goes off. No problems then.

8. She doesnt what to leave the house and gets upset as she wants to watch tv? No problem... you choose, you either stay home alone or you come with me to the park, but im leaving now. What would you like to do? 9. You can't bring all your toys. Choose 2. That's it. If you want to bring them all, we stay home and don't go anywhere. You choose. The more choice and autonomy you give, the easier it will be on both of you. He is testing the boundaries but not quite yet equipped to deal with the emotions and overwhelm. Hope this helps. Let me know how it goes.

Will definitely be giving the above a go tomorrow and see how we get on 🤞🏻

@Tori good luck. It won't happen over night, but you'll see the change. Just be persistent.. Big thing for me was when someone.told me, every time.my girl gets so upset and starts tantrum or hurting me by hitting etc, change it in my head so hear her saying MOMMY, HELP ME. I DONT KNOW HOW TO ACT IN THIS SITUATION.. And that made a huge difference to my emotional reaction towards her. X Keep me posted

We are also struggling 😞 my 2 year old is biting and now scratching. He’s been doing it since he started nursery a year ago, it was just at nursery but it’s recently at home too. I’m so exhausted by it and praying it is going to end soon. No real advice I’m afraid apart from I’m right there with you and they will grow out of it (eventually!) it’s so tough though