Family problem

So a while again I made a post about how we hadn’t told our families that I was pregnant… we wasn’t going to see any of our family till Easter! But I had an accident and our baby was born premature at 22 weeks! So is it wrong to not tell them yet still? I want to tell my parents at least; but my husband is super hesitant about telling everyone! What should I do??? They don’t live close it’s about 4 hours to and from!
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I mean. Is there a reason why he’s hesitant? Is said baby healthy? Hopefully? I kind of understand if not, but then god forbid, does he not want to tell them at all? Or…? I’m a bit confused about hiding a baby after it’s born already. I understand hiding pregnancy itself. Sure.

@Alexis It’s not that he doesn’t, he is just scared…. We were told she has a 30% survival rate! He doesn’t want people to get their hopes up and something happens…. His mom also was pretty upset when we told her we were pregnant with our oldest daughter, she would tell us we are way too young to be parents and we didn’t know what we were doing… Don’t get me wrong we love her but she can be to much….

Well first off fingers crossed and prayers for her. I would say it’s going to make you feel very lonely not being able to tell anyone, or hiding it. And I don’t want you getting the depression I had just from 46 days with family support. But obviously everyone reacts different. Because it will obviously be quite awhile that she’s in the NICU and that by itself can be very traumatic. Also you may need help since you already have a little one to take care of as well at home. I think since she’s actually out here now, it’s more tangible than getting your hopes up. She’s a live, part of the family even if it is just for now. But again. Just my thoughts trying to think if my little guy had been THAT early. (33weeks)

You need to have support. My baby was 35 weeks and had a NICU stay. Due to being early and having prolonged jaundice… that’s traumatic thinking about. I can’t imagine what you’re feeling? You fell and hurt yourself, your precious baby is now receiving care and you’re running on adrenaline. But you’re also your parents baby/child and daughter. If my daughter was you and you were coping alone it would break my heart. Don’t take away the privilege of your parents love support and care for you and your baby. Sending love and protective energy to you all ❤️

Thank you and I convinced my husband to let us tell my parents at least! We are going to give them a call this afternoon!

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