Toddler rejecting Mum
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We had a similar situation when my partner was on pat leave, because he was mostly focused on our toddler she rejected me doing things, from what I can tell, it stems from jealousy about the new baby and no longer having both mum and dads constant attention. If you can try and spend some 1-2-1 time with your toddler while dad has the baby, it does balance back out. It’s a big adjustment for them to process the new family dynamic!
Similar here when we had our little girl in November, our son started gravitating to Daddy and I had “you love my little sister, Daddy loves me” and a definite daddy preference. It’s inevitable you’ll be spending more time with the baby, especially when breastfeeding, but it is only likely to improve if you try and balance that out a bit - where possible try and have time where you hand the baby to your other half and spend time with your toddler. If that initially needs to be alongside dad then that’s fine but for us it was the only thing that improved it - it got a bit easier to do once the baby was a little bigger.
I had the exact same thing with my little girl. She was 22 months when I had twin girls who I bf also. Suddenly it was like she hated me, very much the same wanted my partner to do everything. It was hard at the time but when she was calm I did take over certain things so she had to accept it wasn’t just daddy doing everything. We got it past it after a short time. She has days when she’s like it mostly st the weekend but it’s just an adjustment to a big change. As hard as it can be try and stay calm and be patient xx