Managing two under two

Buy a sling so you caring carry the baby everywhere which leaves you hands free for the toddler. Bath both together. Just try and sync as much as possible up like naps and food and everything to make your life easier. A 6m old should need less immediately than a 2m old so it won't be as tough as it currently is

You take it minute by minute. Roll with it and you'll find a rhythm

My two are a year apart and I had the same fears. But eventually everything came naturally and got easier everyday. Utilize a swing or bouncer for baby for feedings or even naps. Utilize shows like Mr Rachel to help entertain your toddler while you are busy with baby. A baby carrier can also be helpful. Take it day by day. Once you adjust and get on a schedule it will get easier.

@Carrie doing the same. Ms Rachel for the elder one but the younger one doesn’t want to be in the swing, wants to be held. Cries inconsolably.

@Rachel Have to feed the elder one for at least an hour otherwise he won’t eat, have to rock him to sleep. The younger one cries if her nap is disturbed slightly. So many times it has happened that she started crying and the elder one woke up cranky. Bath time not possible together because she cries a lot

I have a 19 month old and 3 week old. When my son is due his nap I put his baby sister in a wrap and baby wear her while I put him down. This generally puts her to sleep to. I focus on my toddlers routine as well and baby fits around this. Toddlers thrive off routine and I’ve found our newborn just goes with the flow.

@Elle I have to rock my elder one to sleep. My question is - If I wear my newborn, how will I rock my elder one?

Will your oldest just fall asleep if they are laid in bed ? Is your oldest still feeding from a bottle ? Are they sleeping in the same space ?

My son was previously rocked to sleep, we implemented a new routine. He was put down in his cot and I held his hand until he fell asleep. He soon got into this new routine and now sometimes doesn’t even want to hold hand. Might be worth trying something like this.

I can just reassure you, as a Twin Mum, and a 3 under 2 mum, that it is more stressful for you than it is for them. Crying is so triggering for mum but it is their only way to communicate, so instead of panicking at the cry assess both their needs and prioritise just like it was work/a job. They'll all turn out fabulous and think you're the best mummy regardless.

@Mou I love this comment! Well said

@Carrie no. He keeps on playing on the bed and I have to keep a watch on him so that he doesn’t fall. Doesn’t drink milk as much now. I keep them in different rooms

Try not to stress about the future! You’ll find a rhythm. Kids are constantly growing and changing and adapting. And they’re unpredictable! I try to feed my toddler while my baby is napping, do baths during the day while the other kid is napping instead of doing them before bed, things like that. You got this!!!!!!

@Elle I have been trying this for a few months. He’s on the bed starts playing. We wait for an hour or too and then give up.

I am not taking care of them alone but when there is no one at home and i have to put the toddler to sleep, i take my baby to the toddler’s bedroom and put on the floor for him to play in dark while me and toddler are on rocking chair for a bit

Things should get easier from 6/7 months due to sitting. I am taking my toddler with me to put the younger to bed (she was sleep trained at 6 months so no need to spend much time to do that) and they have been having baths together since that age as she can now sit. X