I feel so low.

LO is 5 months and I'm just feeling at an all time low. My partners only "engaging" convo is about sex, or lack of sex or jokes like "want to see my d**" that I just don't find funny with them being so reoccuring, and then things he does that I don't agree with with our baby he'll instantly turn it around on me and tell me I'm "talking out my arse" or "why are you trying to make me look like a bad person" when I don't .. I just tell him I don't like something. For example, LO is starting to roll onto his tummy. He bumped his head on the plastic part of his play gym and ended up laying there crying. Partner was sat right next to him the entire time, saw him do it and then just sat over him laughing at him, providing no comfort whatsoever. I asked him to pick him up to cuddle him, and he told me "This is why he's so needy, I was going to pick him up but just because it's after YOU said now you're making me out to look like a sh*t dad" It's constant victim mentality with him? Another example, I was downstairs doing babies bottles. Partner was upstairs with baby and had laid him on his changing mat and went into our room across the hallway to grab a nappy. From downstairs, I heard baby choking on his spit and struggling to breathe, I shouted to my partner whilst running up the stairs and he walked in nonchalant saying "He didn't CHOKE on his spit, he was still making noise" yes .. a gurgling noise. Then days later partner said "Oh god I just choked on my spit" I rolled my eyes thinking .. you literally dragged me for saying baby was choking on his spit. I just ugh, it makes me not want to be close to him but when I'm not close to him, he then has issue with me. I just feel drained of all energy to even argue these days.

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I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Honestly it doesn't sound like your partner is being much of a partner.. I don't blame you for not feeling close to him. How could you when he's treating you like this? Children can either bring a couple closer together or further apart. I think it can bring out both the best and worst in someone once they become a parent. It might be worth considering couples counselling if he's not listening to you. It also doesn't sound like he's being a great father and personally that would really turn me off. It made me panic a bit when I read that he was upstairs with baby and had him laid on his changing mat and went into the room across the hall to grab a nappy. I hope the changing mat is on the ground and not an elevated surface. If it's on an elevated surface the baby should never be left alone, not even for a few seconds.

@Skye Thank you for this, the mat is now on the floor but he did leave him once AT NIGHT in his room on the changing mat when it was above his drawers. I told him not to do that then, and he again started saying I'm calling him a sh** dad, it is just mentally, physically, emotionally draining.

Sounds like he's not taking accountability for his actions.

I got turned off just reading this post. Idk I’d raise my voice and give him a rude awakening if this was my partner. What about when your son actually starts rolling? Does your partner know if he rolls and falls he could potentially suffer a bad injury if not fatal? Your partner needs to be ALERT at all times in order to protect the child. He is being a wanker. My partner wasn’t completely like this but he wasn’t on the ball as I was and I just drilled it into him and now he’s good. Some men are like monkeys and need training

@Sera Kay ✨ THANK YOU! he IS being a wanker. He lacks so much common sense and then if something bad *almost* happens it's "Well it didn't 🤷🏼‍♀️" but it could've!!!! This is what we're trying to prevent!! Because you'd never forgive yourself if you let our child fall from a height or become unresponsive from choking silently in his own room just because you couldn't be bothered to walk the 10 steps it takes to grab a nappy holding him. I'm so sick of it, no I don't want to see your dick jesus

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