Burnt out and need a way out
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I’m sorry you’re so exhausted. You’re doing so well running on no sleep. Sleep deprivation is awful and causes so many symptoms that make you feel so rubbish. What time is your baby’s last nap of the day. We have started not letting ours sleep past around 3pm and by 7pm he’s ready for his bed. We pop the astronaut projector on in a dark room and this way he seems to know it’s time for bed and his last bottle. I think they say at this age it takes them around 3 nights to get used to a new routine. I was also going to say would you be entitled to the child free hours. I think it’s from 9 months of age if the household earns under 100k. I’ll pop a link below : https://www.gov.uk/free-childcare-if-working/check-youre-eligible
We have the same gap, I love it but agree it definitely gets overwhelming at times. Not really advice bud I feel like we're through the hardest point now and it's only going to get easier. Do you have any grandparents that could take the older one for a night occasionally? I also find no naps after 3pm helps us
Just to say although financially there might not be much point in going back to work p/t at the moment, money isn’t the only measure if it keeps your career going and gives you the opportunity to use your energies in a different way, then it might be worth considering all the pros and cons.
@Michelle you’re so right, just to have some me time. Just feel guilty as she’s young but extra money and time out would make me a better mum. Thanks all for reaching out
@Jade is it not only for working parents though? Pretty sure I’d have to be employed to get it. But 9 months isn’t far, think it’s the term after so sept but it would help.
You're right - motherhood is exhausting, overstimulating, and guilt ridden - but the fact that you care for them all day every day on such little sleep is a huge deal! Can you apply for some hours free child care? I think it's when they get to 9 months, so in a few weeks it could work out that you might be able to get a few hours to yourself, maybe to go back to work or just to give yourself a well-earned break. I hope I've got that right, because it sounds like it would be a huge help!!