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I currently live with my friend and her husband . They want me to be in a relationship with them or just her . I’m slowly getting comfortable and starting to like her to ask her to be my girlfriend . How would/ should I ask her ? I want to do something cute .
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Fuck this! My best friend of 17 years the god mom of my child was sleeping with my husband our whole marriage and after we got divorced I found out bc they were still seeing each other

I’ll be honest as someone who’s friend liked them, the fact that you are getting comfortable to it means you didn’t really want to

@✨Vina✨ my point of view is that they are clearly not happy in the marriage that they need something else so get a divorce. Marriage is only for 2 people

@Savannah i don’t think her post has anything to do with anyone cheating..sounds like her friend & husband r into polygamy… Yu should take her out! Surprise her, Buy her a cute outfit, take her somewhere new she’s never been & ask her 🤭

@Sibbi thank you for the nice comment !

@Sibbi well done!!! You got the assignment!!! I agree take some time just u and her see if u still have the feelings or it's just curiosity!!

What does she like? Could you get a cute gift card to a coffee shop that says like free for one date or something?

Or any restaurant she might enjoy!

@Brianne I don’t have a lot of money right now but I want to try to get flowers , some of her favorite candy and a card that says will you be my girlfriend . I don’t know .

I think that's simple and sweet and adorable!

@Brianne thank you ! I just don’t know when to do it , we are so busy with the kids right now .

@✨Vina✨ why are you judging someone you don’t know ? You don’t know anything . All I asked for was advice but clearly you cant . Didn’t your mama say if you don’t have anything nice to say , don’t say it at all .

@Savannah I’m sorry that happened to you but everyone isn’t like what happened to you . Thanks for the “ great “ advice.

You’re welcome for my “great” advice I hope you take some of it and find someone single not in a relationship

If the weather is getting nice maybe you could take her to a cute park for a picnic. Go to the dollar store and buy little water paint sets. Or some other craft. Grab a hoagie to split and some snacks. Just hang with her 1:1 and see how you feel about her in that way.

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@C unfortunately the weather is kind of gross for the next two weeks 😔

Since you're slowly getting comfy with the idea, I'd plan a date for when the weather gets nicer. Use the next couple of weeks to just hang out with each of them Individually. See if you like him like that. See if you like her like that. All questions regarding hierarchy and ability to veto (if they operate like that). See if they're looking for a friends with benefits or to actually be in a relationship as a triad and what their expectations are. What are their boundaries around sex outside of one another/relationship, what are the frequencies of std/sti checks and their safe sex practices. Expectations about living and sleeping arrangements and finances. Take all that in and then ask yourself how YOU feel about it. THEN decide if you want to actually pursue her and/or him.

😬🫣😬 I think this is the wrong group to ask this. I suggest you take this question to this group instead https://www.peanut-app.io/share/Hi74aVafnSb

@Claudette ❤️ thank you

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