Struggling A LOT LOT
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Also there’s a lot of different ways of living your best life, having my son was definitely the start of me living mine and I didn’t have a clue what I was doing initially!
Hey hun! I can promise you no one feels ready for a baby. You’re gonna be unprepared and so scared in the beginning but I promise it’ll work out. Your body knows what to do instinctively. Your hormones are still regulating, I would tell your doc about those intense panic attacks though. They might be able to suggest something for you. I promise it’s gonna be okay, your beautiful baby will be completely worth it and it sounds like your boyfriend will be there for yall too!
I’m sorry to hear that you’re struggling a lot. When I first found out about our little surprise I was in tears for days because it wasn’t part of the “plan”. But honestly, I’ve never heard of any parents honestly saying that they’re ready. I echo what the lovely ladies above have said. I really hope you can draw some support from those around you. I’d recommend telling someone you trust who loves you and asking for help. There is no shame for asking for help. It’s great that your boyfriend seems really positive about the news. Perhaps you could sit down together and discuss what the future could look like together and realistic expectations of support you need. I’m a believer that children are a gift and I really hope that you may find this so true for you too. Sending you love, prayers, and strength.
Oh babe i’m sorry to hear you’re struggling so much, these are all really valid reasons to feel this way! It sounds like you just don’t see how to make it work. Firstly, do you want to make it work? Secondly, can you move in with your bf? How far gone are you? You obviously feel very out of control so need to retake some things that can make this process a lot easier to cope with. Do you have a support system? What kind of freelance, could it be something you can still do with a baby? Can you claim maternity allowance from the government? It’s normal to feel unprepared, i’m due in 5 weeks and have nothing prepared. You would love the baby but it does need to work too. I think if you’re able to solve the logistics like living with your boyfriend if that’s suitable, sorting out the income when baby is here etc you’ll feel a lot more confident going forward!