It keeps happening

Ugh i just keep making things worse unintentionally!! I went to check on my daughter and mess with her pretending I fell asleep and I unintentionally fell asleep. Things are already rocky between me and my boyfriend as in I’m not healed from my past marriage to the point where he doesn’t want this relationship and things got worse because I fell asleep.. he then locked the door to the bedroom because I was giving false hope.. my daughter heard me begging him to open the door and now she can’t sleep and is upset with me because I’m laying in the living room instead of the bed with her!!! I recently started getting help with this healing process!! I made things worse by saying certain sexual comments and then went upstairs and didn’t come back don for a while!! Idk what to do anymore!!

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You are not in the wrong here, he is. What he did is not right and not normal, I am sorry. Laying and falling asleep with your daughter is absolutely okay. Xx

The problem is I don’t think he knows that because I tend to come upstairs in the living room and fall asleep as well

The right people will help you heal, not turn you away xx

He sounds toxic. Get you and your daughter out of there

Being in a relationship when your not healed from your past one is already a huge thing. You can’t be in a happy relationship if you’re not over the last one. Stop being so desperate for his validation and help yourself. You got this

That just shows that you are exhausted. I have often told my husband when the kids go to bed…but then I fall asleep with them, or it takes so long I no longer have energy. He might make a joke, as he is allowed to be disappointed, but he would never be angry and your partner shouldn’t be either. Please look at how you can get out of there, for you and your baby xx

Being tired as a mom isn’t a reason to not let you sleep with your daughter!!! Cosleeping (while I don’t condone it personally) can be very helpful to feel closeness to your child, in my experience. I’ve fallen asleep in my bed with my daughter (don’t like to do it because of risk of SIDS) before. It’s not a big deal. He sounds like a controlling toxic POS. Get your daughter (and yourself) out of there.

He and I talked.. and we aren’t together.. we have been sleeping in the same bed but it’s big enough for us not to touch and I didn’t want my daughter to know.. plus the way we went about it is the fact that I was having mixed feelings about it all and he wasn’t communicating the fact that he just wants to sleep in his room on his own.. this is his house and he’s the only one working right now.. I’m just his roommate at this point and as of tonight I will be sleeping in the bed with my daughter now that I finally broke the news to her that we aren’t together.. he doesn’t know if we can truly be together due to the fact that my trauma has turned everyone against me and caused me to burn bridges with ALL my loved ones.. I truly need to heal and in order to do that I need not to be sleeping in the same bed as him..

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