Am I marrying into the wrong family?!

Why are you moving closer to this woman if she's behaved this way? I'd personally stay where I am, as I wouldn't want her help ot company anyway!

What does your partner say about it? I wouldn't move near her. Depending on what was said I would stop contact at all. If you don't show respect then you are not going to have a relationship with my family. Sorry not sorry

@Rebecca These problems didn’t start until after we moved closer to her 😭 I know she’s always been a bit judgmental of my anxiety but I just kinda brushed it off because my fiancé and I wanted our daughter to live close to cousins. But once we moved out here things got BAD

You're marrying your fiance & not his family. Move away from them & don't invite them to the wedding. Do you have doubts about your husband?

you should sit down and talk to her about it and how it made u feel, get it out in the open and adress the situation x

Yes, you’re marrying your fiancé but to an extent, his family are also part of the package. That said, it’s really the responsibility of your fiancé to address those issues for you. He is responsible for you and your daughter and how you are treated both in and out of the family. So my suggestion would be to make a conscious step to actively separate yourself from them until your fiancé recognises that this is an issue you’re not going to brush aside and you are not going to move forward from until he puts his family in check. Yes they are his family, but you and your daughter are his priority.

Honestly Hun I married my ex and his family were like that and it was the biggest mistake, however talk to your partner and mention all this along with how you're feeling and see what he says and go from there

So I have gone through something kinda similar. Draw closer to your own family (your mom, dad, siblings) as your support system. Focus on the little family you are creating with your spouse and become more united with him if you truly love him. Once some in-laws sense a crack in your foundation they tend to get pessimistic and will try to come in between you and your spouse bc they think the unions not strong enough. Botton line that is his family no matter how you flip it. Dont focus on them tune them out and have tunnel vision. They should not be so much of a vocal point in your marriage if they are not supportive of it. In-laws can ruin marriages keep them out of your business!

I was engaged to someone where their family judged me all the time, I took a look as that I was polite to them for the sake of my companion. If he didn’t defend me then I knew I was not with the right man. His family is supposed to respect and accept you into the family not treat you like a stranger. It’s your relationship with him and no one else can interfere with it. If you want his family to like you, I would say put the mental issues to the side and I have anxiety too so I understand of how rocky of a road it is but show the family that you have so much to offer and ignore their hate comments since no one knows you except you and you know you’re a beautiful soul inside and out.

Definitely going to be an uncomfortable situation going forward.. you have to ask yourself if you’re ready to marry into a family that may not ever like you or treat you the way you want to be treated.

How does your partner feel about it? My in-laws are horrible but my partner never liked his mom (for the way she treated him growing up) so I was able to stand up for myself and then cut out my MIL and he was on board. Then my FIL tried to get involved so my husband cut him off. Now we just see my BIL but every few months or so and we’ve never had problems with him. We are focusing on our marriage, our family we have created, and those who actually support us without worrying about the judgement or stress

I hate my husband’s family and never wanted to marry him but I needed health insurance 🐒

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ that's actually horrible...

@Rebecca how so?

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ never wanted to marry him but needed the insurance?! Surely you marry for love right?

@Rebecca people marry for all different reasons

Screw the family! Off topic, I’m near rathdrum if you ever just need a friend or to get away 🩷