Adoption

My sister was gonna give up her daughter to my oldest sister but then a few weeks after she gave birth, she wanted her back. There wasn’t any paperwork involved yet so for them it was just basically handing her back over.

@Lisa I just feel guilty we’ve spoken with the parents the last 8 months but I don’t think I can give her away

Was there any paperwork signed and did they cover all finances of the pregnancy? If so, I think it would be difficult to keep the baby since you’d have to pay it all back and be in possible debt. But if you absolutely want to keep the baby then talk with the supposed adoptive parents about it and try to come to an understanding. You could also make it an open adoption where they let you see the baby and be part of the baby’s life. I’m sorry for how this is going for you but I hope you decide to do what’s best for you. ❤️

@Lisa the adoption agency we went thru the papers say even if they provided any financials you can still change your mind and are not obligated even if any financials have been provided. They said unless you signed a consent which is not done to l48 hours post birth there is no obligation and the parents are aware of this risk prior to being matched with someone. They said while you may feel wrong doing this you in no way are obligated. I was just looking to see if anyone has been thru this. It even says in the papers that you understand you can change your mind regardless prior to signing consents

Ah okay. If you really want to keep this baby and will do everything you can for him/her, then I think you should since it’s not too late to back out. The adoptive parents will be upset of course but you still have a choice. I’m sure I’d feel the same way as you in your situation and I would immediately let them know I changed my mind and chose to keep the baby if that’s what you decide. Do what feels right for you and baby. I don’t wanna get too into your business but I do hope everything works out for you!

I say if you’re having a change of heart you should keep the baby. You got this and there are soo many support groups if you decide to keep the lo. My sister is the director of a group that helps women who choose to keep their lo and with adoption. She’s had tons of women think adoption and then opt to keep the baby. Don’t feel guilty it’s your child!

I’d think back to why you were putting her up for adoption in the first place. You don’t need to say here. But is it in your baby’s best interests to stay with you? Not meaning to sound harsh or nasty. I have no idea about your current situation. But if there was a reason for you putting her up for adoption then I’d think back to that and make sure you’re putting the baby’s needs before your own. ❤️