Mum's of shy daughters...

I'm meeting my new partners daughter soon and need advice! She is 4 and very shy with new people. My LB is 3.5 and will tell the postman his life story! 😂 he is super confident, chatty and loud and will make conversation with everyone he meets, adult or child... So I'm not sure how best to interact with a shy little one, its not something im used to!... I don't want to come on too strong and scare her. How can I make her feel comfortable, what sort of things should I chat to her about, or is it best not to ask too many questions and overwhelm her? I feel like I'm going for a job interview and very nervous! 😂 so any advice would be amazing - from mum's of shy girls/ girls in general, and those who have met partners children. Any do's/dont's? Thanks! X

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My daughter is also a very shy 4 year old! But I think of it like actually she’s just a really good judge of character and she’s VERY warey of new people/strangers etc. if we are out and someone smiles at her or tries to interact she literally looks at them like 🤨🤨 My advice would be… Don’t try to hard and don’t talk to her like she’s little (even though she is). My daughter finds it easier to be around people who are calm and chill. So just being like “hello, I’m xxx. I really like your tshirt” or something comes across 10x better than a loud bubbly “HEY!!”. Find out some of her big interests! My daughter would talk to ANYONE about drawing, school, her baby dolls etc if they asked her direct, interested questions. Also don’t push conversations! She will warm up to you and talk to you on her own terms when she feels comfortable. Also don’t take it personally! I have to tell so many people that with my daughter.. she doesn’t hate you she’s just sizing you up! 😂

Also biggest DONT ever for my daughter at least is trying to initiate any kind of physically contact 🙈 No high-five, touch, fist bump anything like that! It literally makes my daughter want to run away and hide and she will physically hide behind me x

I completely agree with Emilie. The harder you try the more my daughter would run. Just keep it calm and remember that it's going to be a long process but she will warm eventually. My daughter takes ages and has to trust people and feel safe with them before she will interact much

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