Red flag or no

No idea what to advise, but toothpaste etc. is a type of medication for tooth related issues. Suggest you follow your gut, though

You said the guys you've been with before have never said no but he is a different guy. He's allowed to be different and not be a continuous sex machine. You've been having great sex the last few days, good on you, and he's probably just wanting a break and doesn't want to. He has a right to say no and to say if he is not in the mood, as do you. which should be respected. So I wouldn't think too hard about that. If his behavior overall starts to be more an more concerning, thats where i would start to worry and investigate but if this is the only incident i would suggest to take it easy. But always keep your eyes and ears to the ground.

in my opinion not enough to make a hard conclusion on anything but any kind of behavior that’s outside of routine i take note of. anytime a someone i have a good relationship with, isn’t volunteering information im asking for i make sure to pay attention. it could honestly be nothing, but keep your women wits on edge. i am not saying this to make you more paranoid, but i had a friend that did the whole brushing of the teeth thing before she came home when we were younger if we had been out smoking and drinking. we would hide it from her parents, make sure they couldn’t smell it on our breath. typically more brushing doesn’t help gingivitis bc you already have inflamed gums

To me neither of these things is a red flag really. But always trust your gut in this regards! If something feels weird even if you can’t explain why, pay attention to that

Always trust your gut instinct, else you will regret it one day!

If my husband did this I would definitely think it was weird. Has he ever turned down sex before?

Has he always immediately came home to brush his teeth? Has he made a dentist appt is there something he’s concerned about? I’m not sure just seems a little funky

It could be one of those days where he felt his breath smelled and had the urge to brush his teeth? Cause I've had those days I don't want to say more, but trust your instinct, your guy feeling.

How long have you been together?

I’m all for trusting your gut, but I definitely think you should just have an open conversation with him especially since yall are together. It sounds like he’s given you a logical explanation but it’s okay to tell your partner how their behaviors have made you feel. Perhaps that will help you with your answer.

I hate this "trust your gut" BS, as you can absolutely see things that aren't there if you look hard enough! I personally don't think either of these things are a red flag tbh. Why would he use a water bottle to brush his teeth at work when he can just do it when he comes come? Don't be silly. As for the sex, not ALL guys want it 24/7 just because it's offered.

@Rebecca me too, people can be anxious, irrational, paranoid etc. obviously some people have very strong intuition/gut instinct but it's not 100% of people.

You clearly don’t trust him which makes you ask why you’re with him x

@Ella I think its just some BS notion that women love to preach to each other to justify their paranoia! If you look hard enough for something, you'll find it, even if it isn't there! So no, I prefer to go by what I can see, hear and touch, actual evidence!

My partner used to get a lot of dental pain and would brush/ mouthwash multiple times a day as he said it eased the pain, even when he was home all day he would do it so I know it's true and I myself have done the same when I had tooth ache, it really does take the edge off.. As for not wanting sex, if you've been sleeping together a lot lately and he is in pain, I'd say it's very possible he just wants to relax in the shower as many people would when they're in discomfort.. that's just my view on it though but you know him better than anyone else x

You're overthinking everything. And yes his balls are drained...nothing left to nut. Don't be selfish and just let his body do its thing, he's a man. As for his teeth, he doesn't have to brush them at work when he has a home to go to. There's nothing going on with him except for your imagination

I brush my teeth when I come home and other various times because I have gingivitis and it helps with the discomfort so I’d say he is being honest. No judgement but your accusations or co start worry over something that may not exist may end the relationship before you get a chance to make your own decision about weather he is doing something wrong or not.

@Ashley no he hasn’t! Honestly I don’t get why he doesn’t take his toothbrush to work if it is that much of an issue for him.

I’d honestly just be cautious. You don’t wanna get hurt but also don’t wanna make conclusions that will hurt your relationship either if he really is that uncomfortable But trust your gut!

He said he have tooth ache and yet you still want sex, nothing wrong in saying no if he doesn't want to do it. I'm pretty sure nobody is in the mood for sex when they have toothache

You don’t have to accuse him, but if it’s sitting on your chest like this, talk to him. Be honest about what you noticed and how it made you feel, because when something starts to feel like a puzzle, it's usually because something's not aligning emotionally, not just logistically. And girl, trust your gut. You’ve been with guys before, you know the patterns. You’re not crazy for noticing when something doesn’t feel right

I'm not agreeing with either of the choices tbh, is recommend a no alcohol mouthwash and only brush teeth 2 times a day with a sensitive teeth toothpaste. With the other thing I've come across it and talked to my dad because I was having concerns. He said that it's an actual thing that as men get older their nuts can get sore or feel empty, I'd give it a couple days of rest for him. Stress among other things can do that to a guy, I would talk to him about your concerns tbh and emphasize that you want to create a safe open space to be brutally honest with eachother, but y'all can't get mad and lash out at each other just express you feelings calmly and have a deep talk. My husband was worried about something he wanted to do experiment wise and his worry of my answer just killed his sexual libido.

Sounds like you guys are sexually active. I would think it was weird if you're like not at all. Lotta ppl saying trust your gut but I was very insecure for the majority of my life and my gut always told me something was off but really I just needed therapy. It helped and now I've never been happier with the same man that I once had suspicions about 🤷‍♀️

Ummm…Never once heard a man complain about his 🅱️ being drained. 😂😭 And the fact the man has *gingivitis* and now suddenly cares about his oral hygiene. 🙃