Sex

Clear communication from both parties as well as a willingness in both parties.

@courtney he’s not in the mood he says and we have both communicated he just said he’s going through stuff and that’s it

I'd personally give him some space to navigate his emotions for a little while. Try not to take it personally, although I know it can be hard. Ask him if there's anything you can do and let him know that you are there if he needs to talk about it. Me and my partner both struggle with our mental health and it's absolutely had a knock-on effect on our libido sometimes. There's nothing more un-sexy than feeling depressed. Having said that, he needs to be actively working on the issue, and consistent communication is the cornerstone of this situation. There may be times he doesn't want to discuss his feelings, which is valid, but he also needs to be opening up at some stage because shutting you out won't help in the long-run. If it continues for an extended period of time, it's a good idea to gently let him know how this is also affecting you and that you want to be a source of support so that the relationship can thrive. Is he seeking therapy or medication?

@Kim thanks for the advice :) and no he’s talked about it but when he was younger neither of those things helped

Completely understand incog, it doesn't work for everyone. I'd be interested to suggest he tries a different medication though if he has only tried one or two types before. Sometimes it just takes a bit of time to find the medication and dose that works for them and can be a bit of trial and error! Therapy is a hit and miss, works for some and not for others. I'd try to encourage healthy routines with him, like making sure he's getting outside enough, going out to do something fun together every now and again if possible, giving him compliments to boost his self-image a little. But the most valuable thing is usually just letting them know you're there for them. It can be really hard so don't feel guilty if it's getting you down. Definitely keep talking to him about it. Hopefully you'll both find a dynamic that works and he starts to feel better soon!