Worst Idea Ever.

Before things got serious with my current partner who isn’t the father of my kid, I invited my bestfriend into our bed because I didn’t know I was going to fall for him. My heart has been with my baby’s father for so long, I didn’t anticipate this. Fast forward, we’re living together now and my friend still comes to visit sometimes, although we haven’t done a threesome since the first time. He recently suggested randomly on our way back from the grocery store, “we really need to try that again with her!” And I’ve been so stuck in my head. He says he gets everything he needs from me, but to randomly mention it like that when I JUST fell for him was.. like a slap in the face. I was so confident before I gave myself to him and now I feel insecure and replaceable. It was my idea for the whole thing, so I can’t help but think it’s just me being insecure.. Her and I have been more distant lately without having a fall out just because I moved an hour away to be with my partner, but SHE just added him on snapchat and hasn’t responded to me very much at all.. I feel like I really fucked myself with this one.

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Tbh if a GUY suggest a threesome he isn’t satisfied. I unfortunately had to learn this the hard way. My kids father told me that having sex with the same person gets boring. So I would try to find ways to spice it up. Give him a reason not to think about the threesome. You are not insecure you just want to be wanted. I used to have the same feeling

I broke my insecurities by realizing it wasn’t me. He just didn’t want to be with me anymore he wanted the girls he was seeing on his porn videos and that’s not me.

if i was you - i’d confront the both of them and straight up ask them what’s going on and address your concerns or you’ll constantly be wondering. and if she was really your friend - she’d talk to you instead of adding YOUR man on socials. it might be a tough convo but at least you’ll have clarity love.

@LaNique the threesome was my idea to begin with so I just feel like I did it to myself. But you’re right, him bringing it up after the fact and talking about doing it again really got to me.

@Christina you gave me confidence to ask. She just now told me that she only saw him pop up on recommended friends so she added him. maybe common sense isn’t so common – because if I had a threesome with her man and her, I would have never added him on Snapchat after the fact, especially without asking her

yea - i don’t believe that because that clearly means she saw it, thought about it and added him. she still could’ve not added him cuz he was only in her “recommended” like you said, common sense isn’t common lol she’s not it for you babe

@Christina right now I honestly j feel like the one who’s buggin it’s so 😣

If it’s making you uncomfortable and you talked to her about it and she didn’t remove him she’s not the friend for you anymore. I have gone through this with friends but my partner removes anyone the second he realizes it makes me feel uneasy because “ I shouldn’t need to beg to know what is happening at my own table”

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