Feeling trapped in the UK

Wondering if others relate. Born and raised Brit who was raised to be hard working and as such, have a high level of education, a good job and an ok standard of living. Due to this, pay 40% tax and have high student loan payments . Since having a baby and going back to work, all my salary is going on either rent or child care/food and I can’t save a penny to leave this country. I feel so trapped in a broken system, but it’s impossible to escape the uk because even on a relatively ‘good’ salary the cost of living is so high, we are trapped in a ‘just getting by’ position, rather than being able to spend money on giving her an enriched childhood. Of course I’m aware many of us hard working educated millennials are trapped in a system which benefited the generation before us and we are giving away most of our pay check, have someone else raise our children and have nothing to show for it and this is a societal problem and I’m not going to find the answers from an app. But those who feel they have managed to give their child more or found ways to beat the oppressive system that keeps us stuck, please please share your tips! Book recommendations also appreciated Feel so down that I feel this is the best I can give me daughter I want so much more for her :(

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Which country would you go to, if you were able to leave? Just wondering where you think might be drastically different.

@Caitlin Australia, Denmark or France are top of the list, the above have a school smart phone ban, which I think should be standard for their wee little brains. Standard of living/outdoor lifestyle is much better (obvs dependent on area that I would choose to live) and from research the tax you pay actually benefits the tax payer and has good public services. Referencing Denmark and Australia in particular with this last remark. Australia is top of the list though

I felt the same. I worked lots of hours and didn't spend quality time with my daughter so when she was 1 I went self employed and set up my own company. I now work around her and have a better quality of life. No idea what your job is but if you can manage it then maybe look into it and speak to others who have their own companies

I hear you, I truly do as a mother as well. But at least you do have a wage to feed your kids and keep them healthy, knowing they’re on a safe and secure place. I come from a country where an NHS do not exist, and your health care will depend on how much you can afford. Where there are thousands of people who simple can’t afford to survive, to keep their kids healthy as our public health is deeply broken, where you’ll need to pay for the education of your kid or simply your little one won’t have access to it. Where benefits doesn’t exist, no childcare funded or not, no child benefit, universal credit, food banks, charity supports organisations, mental health support, clothes banks, baby banks, employment opportunities, job centres, and I even students loans. Either you pay it upfront or you just can’t get to uni, and believe me is as expensive as in the uk. Where there’s absolutely no help out there, none… I don’t dismiss your opinion, just to give visibility to so many other …

Other realities and actually to enlighten the positive aspect of this country, and all the privileges (to my very own personal opinion) that the British system have. Privileges that has cost me thousands of thousands of pounds to have access to, but happy that my daughter will live with them since the beginning I really hope you find the way through, and again from the bottom of my heart I don’t dismiss at all your feeling/opinion, but perhaps another perspective of the equation can help X

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