Cheating

I’m 33 weeks pregnant and my partner went out on Saturday night and I’ve since found messages from a girl (they have added each other on Snapchat that night) who was out with his friendship group, they had been calling each other on the night at 4am and the messages said ‘where are you’ ‘where you gone’ and then the calls. In my opinion they’ve got talking on the night out and the intention was to cheat. Even adding each other and calling and then hiding it is cheating to me even if nothing physical ended up happening. This is the first time anything like this has happened and it’s completely blindsided me, I’m heartbroken, I thought he was the perfect partner and we were so excited for our future together and to have our son. I told him it’s over and he’s been pleading with me not to leave him ever since, he’s begging for another chance saying he can’t live without me and his son, he doesn’t know why he did it he didn’t want to (🙄) he was overly drunk and it was a moment of weakness (that’s not an excuse to me) Do I give him another chance for the sake of our son? I really love him I don’t want to lose him, I don’t want to do this alone but I don’t know if I can ever forgive the betrayal. Would I just be delaying the inevitable and it won’t work out down the line? Has anyone been in a similar situation and it’s worked out? Any advice would be much appreciated ❤️
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My friend had this situation, they tried to make it work but she wasn’t forgiving him and kept bringing it up constantly and was draining them both, they ended up breaking up when their son was 1 ish but it was not a happy relationship during the time they was trying to make it work and was very rocky, I would suggest if you can’t see yourself ever forgiving him at all and not getting past it then I wouldn’t drag it out as it’s worse leaving when the child has been born but if you feel you might forgive him in the future when he builds your trust back and if you want to try work on it then you can always try

@Jessica thank you so much! I feel like I couldn’t right now because it’s so raw but maybe in the future if he really proves himself I could, I don’t know 😕 but your insight is really helpful x

Definitely think about it and take your time to adjust and get your thoughts straight on your feelings towards him and everything before doing anything too rash. If you feel like you want to make it work and he tries enough to make you trust him again just keep in mind you will have to find a way to forgive him eventually to make it work otherwise it will be a constant strain on you both, not just you, especially if nothing he does changes your opinion it would definitely effect him aswell, I hope everything works out for the better either way 💗

@Jessica you’re so right I need to take some time to really think about it and how whatever decision I make will affect us both and our baby, thank you so much ❤️

Speaking from experience, did it once, will do it again! Hate Snapchat

@Jo I think that is true for some people definitely, I think it depends on the type of person they are overall but in my experience people can change for the better if you have good communication and understanding. my current partner cheated on his ex and regretted it and wish he had been able to speak to his ex instead about how unhappy he was, he was depressed and hated himself for it every day until he met me and so I made our relationship based off communication and a safe place to speak when we are unhappy without judgement so we can understand it from each others views and we come to an understanding before anything escalates and it works for us, yes he may not have cheated on me but he was a cheater and wanted to change his ways and never do it again

Personally I’m not sure I’d ever be able to trust him to go out again. I would want to look through his phone constantly. It would be like he was living in jail which isn’t healthy. So you have to really think if you can move past this and fully trust before making any decisions.

Once a cheat always a cheat

I’ve been in this exact situation. Message me if you want to chat, it’s a lengthy topic but from experience is absolutely worth talking about. X

Leave that chicken dinner and get with a winner. He will keep doing it imo

Happened similarly with me too. Only 2 months after our wedding and now it's been 1.5 years since. We are still together, I'd like to think in a better place. But if it happened again, I would leave. I'm open to chat about it more if you'd like

My boyfriend cheated when we were only dating about 3 weeks or so and I decided to give him a second chance and I haven’t worried about it since , I had to do a lot internally to get over it but he also told me everything I wanted to know , now if i was pregnant when he cheated I wouldn’t have taken him back personally even if it was for the baby because how could he do that to us

You should have him get rid of his snapchat until he proves himself … see what he says

Make sure you have passwords to everything so he can earn your trust back

Did he admit that his intention was to cheat? Sorry, I’m probably missing the point here. So he added a girl on Snapchat and they did what?

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