Baby’s last name

Please give me some opinions on this!!! I’m due in august I didn’t think abt this till I past a post on similar topic, but what last name should I give my baby? I would love for her to have my man’s last name… eventually. We were planing on getting married this yr but had a surprise pregnancy. since then there has been a lot we have both struggled with even to a point we have secretly broke our engagement, we still say we are engaged publicly and have not mentioned it to really anyone, but we dont wear our rings for at least a month now. Another point we still consider each other wife and husband as we feel we are soul mates and will be there one day officially. we are still in this together living together working hard, he is slowly rebuilding himself to be the man ik he can be for me and our baby. i said when he feels like he and our relationship is right with god he can purpose again. It has been a struggle rebuilding trust and confidence as some of this has been mentally alone or even working against him. Don’t get me wrong after much communication we are getting there and I’m so happy and excited and everyday I’m appreciative not only that he heard me but is doing his all to change. Part I feel like is because he sees me and only me as his wife. I’m torn on the idea of baby’s last name I’m carrying her and will be birthing her with the last name I’ve always had. I feel like I want to give her my last name and when/if we get married she and I both change our last names. I think this sounds reasonable and kinda cute for the day we all have his name. However I’m unsure how to bring this up. I could understand it could upset him and it is against tradition. Is this a weird idea I should just drop? Should I mention it, if so how would you bring it up? Any points I should make? If we were to get engaged officially again before birth should I to go back to his name?

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You're not married, doesn't really sound like there's a strong commitment (as there used to be), so 'tradition' doesn't apply. I'd give the baby my last name in your position. I made the mistake of giving my girl his last name, I'm soon petitioning to have it changed to mine. Just an opinion from someone who's been there..

@Heather how would u bring it up? We had discussed his last name 5 months ago. I don’t want to make him feel like I’m not committed in this relationship and future family.

Then you at least have a couple of years to sort out your new relationship (because a baby does change everything for good or bad) before the baby even knows their last name and you can change it to his if it works out and you marry.

@Heather I also regret giving my baby my bd's last name

On reading your post, it's all about HIM making himself better for YOU, where is your part in all of this? Are you so perfect that you don't need to change anything about yourself? As for the same, it doesn't matter. If you can't agree then double barrel it

@Rebecca I don’t mean to come off selfish but u also don’t really understand I’m not saying I’m perfect I’m saying in our relationship I have honestly never betrayed or hurt him in anyway and he has. Never did anyone ask for ur input nor was there really a need for that comment.

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