Relationship

Yes. He is high functioning

How is your relationship?

Its semidifficult. We don't talk about him being on the spectrum because he doesn't like to identify himself as being on it but sometimes there's spikes from it that causes issues with us. He needs a lot of things in his way or it wont work or he'll get extremely upset about it. Other times he's more hyperfocused on him so he doesn't really think about anything but himself when it comes to issues which makes disagreements pretty hard. But I try to work my way around it my breaking the Conversation down. Trying to make light of the situations with stuff I know would make him feel better like his humor or telling him its okay and I apologize for misunderstanding how he's feeling just try to mend things

My partner is diagnosed with Asperger’s and I have ADHD. I hate bringing things up because I hate being labelled too or feeling like I’m labelling someone but it’s got to the point I am starting to dislike him because he takes no effort to try make things work eveyrhing HAS to be his way even when his way makes no sense. He gets mad at the most stupidest things and takes no time to consider how I feel. I’m currently pregnant and experience the so called pregnancy aches and pains I’m fighting to find a comfortable position in bed and he keeps accusing me of taking drugs because according to him “it’s not normal”. He was the love of my life at one point and I’m carrying his child, I know whatever I’m feeling now it’s likely to be due to my pregnancy hormones but I really need some tips on how to deal with this because I’m starting to think baby and I would be better off by ourselves and deep down that’s not what I want

I can 100 percent tell you its most likely the Aspergers doing it and he may not even notice he's doing it. My hub is exactly way and when I got with him at the beginning his parents talked to me about it. I'm sorry he's accusing you of using drugs. The aches are all so normal during pregnancy thats weird for him to accuse you of. Its hard to give tips about it because it's just how they are. The only way I try not to make it a big thing is when I know he's about to get upset over something silly but something his mind is already set on being mad about, I emotionally clock out. I'm there for him but I don't let it affect how I go about my day. Sometimes if not most times I let him know this is something that he's doing and its not really helping our relationship so I offer space and after a while he'd cool down and apologize for it

I think its hard having to deal with it and when I was pregnant I also felt like we'd be better off. But it was a balance he's a great father and a loving person. Its just something Ive learned to accept when it comes to being with him. After the baby its been less outbreaks but still happens. Would you like to text about it ?

What exactly is "on the spectrum," Sorry 😅