How to connect with my daughter

Does she like arts and crafts? Maybe you could get a kid's jewelry making kit and make bracelets together ❤️

You’re not to ugly to be girly! Also, how about doing her hair? Like buying color clips and bedazzles and putting jewels in her hair ? Or even sitting outside with her. Make her favorite meal and just ask her questions. She’ll start talking and talking. You’ll be amazed at how much you’ll learn from her just by listening to her.

Oh my daughter loves face masks, we started them at 2. She wanted to be like mommy haha

You honestly look more girly than me in your pictures. Teach her how to take care of her nails or do her hair. I love the craft idea

@Vanny i wanted to do facemasks but she doesnt like things on her face. she didnt like getting an animal mask at s birthday party. maybe we'll do shirts or something she does like crafts

i know she likes crafts but i need something we can do every day. that doesnt need to be constantly set up and cleaned up

i think alot of it will come down to you having to make sacrifices, i’m not saying to change who you are, but just like accommodate who she is and what she likes even if you don’t. you can also be honest with her… for an example, you can say things like “mommy doesn’t like unicorns as much as you but i see you love them so much which is awesome, what’s your favorite thing about them?”… the key is to seem interested and feed into her likes that way she knows she’s included, and then she’ll also learn her boundaries with you and who you are as a person. ask her what she likes to do, or what activities she would like to do with you, and who knows, maybe you’ll feel more compelled and willing to step out of your element because you’ll know it will be beneficial for the both of you, even if she’s the only person that gets to see that side of you — you can have the hard/tomboy persona towards everyone else with a soft spot only for your daughter. don’t worry, it will grow, it takes time

you can have mommy-daugther dates too… take her to the park, the mall, out to eat. just the two of you

@Paris what about having her help you in the kitchen for meals ? It’s an everyday thing and she’d learn at the Same time (:

@Vanny yeah no, i need them to stay out of my way they get into everything and ask for everything time theyre in the kitchen

@Lala 💋 i have a fear this would lead to me not liking being around her, like i cant be myself around my own kid

@Paris oh well then Idkay, don’t have that problem. Was just a suggestion. My kids love helping out in the kitchen and I don’t mind if they eat a carrot or two along the way . It’s a fun way to connect with them. At least for myself.

@Paris i know, but if you love her unconditionally, which i’m sure you do, then that would be nearly impossible mama. just try… have an open mind, if you go into it thinking like that, then thats how it’s going to end up being. she might not be like this forever, she’s still young, her likes and personality could change a bunch over the years as she grows older. but i would hate for you to shun her out during the times she needs you the most. embrace your baby girl now, in every stage, before it’s too late. i promise it will be harder later because eventually she will start to recognize the difference between the way you treat her vs her brothers. i read something the other day that said: one day, someone is going to ask your son/daughter “what was your childhood like…? what was life like growing up?” and that literally changed my perspective forever. i now try to make the best of it for my kids to be able to tell a great story, and i wish the same thing for you and yours 🤍

Maybe take her on a one on one date even if it’s running errands or going for a walk, taking her to get her hair done. I think it’s important to show her that she’s still seen even with having two other brothers.

Don't over think it. Every time you have 1 on 1 time (or family play time) you are bonding. Reading. Singing. Dance party. Balloon game. Buy her a unicorn sticker book and do it with her. You can do her nails, just use non toxic nail polish.

UPDATE: the past few days ive adjusted her naptime (to get used to jt when she starts preschool) so while her brothers are sleep we eat snacks and watch Bluey. ive also learned she likes to "write" which ive always done even at her age when i drew smiley faces. she likes to scribble but she thinks shes writing. so we're going to get matching journals.

@Paris thanks for the update. I’m Glad you found something that yall can connect on. You got this momma.