Heartless baby dad

Yes. My sons father has been mia since the pregnancy has been confirmed

You can’t force anybody to be involved they have to want to be involved rather learn this sooner than later. Sometimes people need space from one another. He probably isn’t being heartless he probably doesn’t know how to respond or what to say. Don’t forget that you guys are trying to get over each other on top of having a baby together. I think you should look at both sides not just yours. Sometimes it has nothing to do with your baby, but all to do with you. Let’s remember two sides to every story & both parties aren’t innocent.

A few years ago I had this friends with benefits going on with this guy, because neither of us wanted a relationship, shortly after I never got my period and felt sick, I wasn’t pregnant but thought I was but I hadn’t taken a test, off the bat he was trying to convince me to have an abortion if I was and I told her I can’t do that, I support everyone’s right to choose but I can’t do it, it’s not in me, I get too connected to fast, he even went as far as to say I would be ruining both his lives and he wouldn’t even be involved in the child’s life because he planned on moving away, we ended up meeting up and talking in person and were arguing about it when I got sick again, and we made up and he said he cared about me and he was doing all this because he cared about me which was stupid but I bought into that, after that we talked one more time before I took a test and he next messaged me again, when I took it was negative but he never really knew that because we never talked again

It’s not exactly the same but some guys can be the worst, but my boyfriend and father of my son I met right after that, he knew I was questioning if I was pregnant with the guys kid and he accepted that and proved he cared about me like actually and stood by me, turns out I wasn’t pregnant I just needed to eat more meat 🤡 which I only found out because my boyfriend before he was boyfriend got me to eat more meat and then I got my period again, by that time I was like a month and half late. I can’t say I have problems with my boyfriend/baby dad because he’s only stood by me and helped but I’ve seen friends and family’s baby dads doing similar things, abandoning their kids because they won’t grow up and weren’t safe

Yea mines a peace of shit too and now he wants both of us dead just cut him off it’s better without them anyway

@Aritha so sorry to hear. Do u think theres any chance he will be in contact again?

@Hokulani yeh totally agree that u cant force someone to be involved if they dont want to be. Its just a lil hope that i had even tho i did have a feeling he wont change his mind. He doesnt want involvement because we weren't dating for long when i fell pregnant. The baby isnt what he wants so he's refused to take responsibility.

@Des yeh mine tried to convince me aswell to have an abortion. I even went to the appointment, i just couldnt go through with it as i knew deep down it wasnt what i wanted. He said the same too that i would be ruining his life. I jus cant get my head around how anyone can do this to their baby, their own flesh n blood.

@Briana omg thats such a horrible thing to say to you. You and your baby are way better off without him.

I can never really understand it either because I look at my son and I love him so much, and I’ve dealt with a still birth before I had my son as well so it baffles me when someone doesn’t want their child or mistreats them how anyone could do that, some people are just truly selfish, I hate to say it, they care more about how it’ll affect their lives rather than yours and the child’s life. I hope you’re okay though, and know that you’re doing amazing, you’re doing everything you can and stepping up while he isn’t, some people are meant to have kids and some are not, who knows this may just be a blessing in disguise if he’s not willing to step up for his child he doesn’t deserve to be in either of your lives