Behaviour

I use diversion or like give her a choice....I'll explain we are going out would you like these shoes or these shoes. So she feels she's got a choice. Doesn't always work but mostly

This is all down to development. They aren’t trying to be difficult for no reason but trying to assert independence and test boundaries so they can learn. Don’t ask questions that aren’t optional - so rather asking to put shoes on, say we are putting your shoes on now? You can follow this with a simple question they can respond to so they feel they have some choice like x or y show or asking if they want to help do the velcro or whatever it is. They may still say no to your statement but you don’t negotiate. It also helps to not repeat yourself so saying something twice max. And then so getting closer and breaking it down so we are going to walk from here to the door together, get there and then continue with the next action of shoes or whatever it is. They are still going to say no lots but holding boundaries and helping them through transitions etc. can really help.

My child says no for yes all the time

We had this but it passed after a few weeks, if she said no I just went about what be I was asking in a different way, like instead of ‘can you do this’ I would say ‘ooohhh mummy’s doing this, does Poppy want to do it too’ and she’d usually get fomo and do it 😂

@Lauren what do you do when a tantrum ensues because you're sticking with it and not letting them avoid the instruction? This is where I get stuck because my son literally screams and runs away and if I go and get him he throwns himself about like a puppet without strings and I get so worried he's going to hurt himself that I end up raising my voice to try and get him to stop. It's exhausting.