Feeling frustrated with toddler

Am I alone in this or does anyone else feel the same ? My daughter is 3 years old and just won’t ever act normally. Shes forever moving,jumping, fidgeting. I can’t read more than 2 pages of a book to her and she’s pulling at the pages or kicking and making annoying loud noises. I cannot have a conversation with her because she just answers in a silly voice and then starts making the silly noise over and over again so that’s the conversation ended. I just want to be able to sit with her and connect. Hold her eye contact for more than 10 seconds and communicate. I’m feeling so frustrated about it. She ends up annoying me so I give up trying to interact. Any advice ?
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Mines the same 🤣 only time he actually looks at me and listens is in the bath for some reason. Also looking for advice 😅 nursery told me to work on extending exercises little by little to increase concentration but didn’t advise how to do that

This is obviously only a snippet of your life and I don't want to sound harsh but from this it sounds like you're expecting a lot from her. She's only 3. 3 year olds are giddy, excitable, silly and playful. I don't think you'd find too many 3 year olds who would sit still and have a full conversation with you. They want to play and be silly and mess around because that's how they learn. Get on her level and join in being silly, connect with her in her world

Do you have like actual concerns about her development? I’m telling you this because my son had some behavior that i considered different, now we are expecting an autism diagnosis. Now that I have looked a lot into been neurodivergent, what you describe it sounds a little bit like attention deficit and hyperactivity, I am not an specialist, but if you have any concerns perhaps is better to talk with your HV.

Another important thing is don’t expect too much from her, us parents, tend to expect a lot from our children and that’s basically the beginning of our frustrations as parents, children are children, us as adults forget that we were like them one day, so is normal to think they will adapt to us, the truth is that in many ways we have to get adapted to them… little by little :)

✨threenager ✨

Thanks for all your comments :) Today is a new day so wish us luck haha We are off to ballet. Can you guys read a book to your 3 year olds at bed time whilst they lay there and listen ? And maybe ask questions about the book as you are reading ? I may be expecting too much of her. I guess I just want to be able to feel a closeness to her but it’s impossible as she is so erratic 😂 even after a whole busy day. She cannot just chill and enjoy a story. I’ll maybe talk to a HV if it gets any worse or doesn’t change. Thank you x

I would LOVE it if my little girl let me read her a story! But nope. She must have like over 100 books and I’ve never read one. I’m hoping the day will come x

My son will listen to a page then get distracted and go off and do something. I honestly think it's completely normal! I think we as the parents should be leaning into their world more than expecting them to come to ours

My boy has started being silly when I read a book at night. The voices too 🤣

I'd say that's very normal for a 3 year old

I’m here for this too. It’s very frustrating

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