Starting to dislike my partner.

Sorry in advance that this is so long, I’ll try to keep it short. My partner is becoming controlling about what we do with our child. She is 12 weeks old and I’m constantly asking him for permission to do things with her. For context, we were dating for 6 months before falling pregnant (fast I know), and we didn’t live together. When our baby was born, he essentially moved in with me but we spend equal amounts of time at his house. I’m breastfeeding and used to supplement with formula but don’t need to now. Because he works and continues to have an active social life, he goes back to his side of London and I stay home (we live in complete opposite sides). I also prefer being at home as it’s my safe space and I have great support system whereas I don’t feel supported at his. The newborn stage has truly been a journey and we have both expressed not liking each other’s homes. It’s been a rough adjustment for both of us and we’re honestly still figuring out what works for us. Two weeks ago, my mum booked a caravan trip away for us. It was very last minute and my partner couldn’t get time off (baring in mind he’s hybrid with one day in the office), and because he couldn’t come he wanted myself and the baby to stay behind. We went for three nights and even came back early as we had previous plans to see my aunty and it caused a major fight. He told me he was upset as he missed her first holiday and asked that I don’t take her swimming as that was another first. I didn’t because I saw he was really upset and I knew that if the roles were reversed I would feel as if he had betrayed me and I would be fuming. Fast forward to discussions about baby’s first holidays. I would love to take her away this summer. I think she would be the perfect age for us to enjoy as a family without having to compromise too much on the activities. Partner on the other hand is adamant that we won’t be taking her away until next year and is fully against bringing our baby away before she’s at least one. Again I understand his point, but he’s so quick to shut me down and it makes me feel unheard. Finally, today my mum invited me and baby swimming (partner is back at his for the next few days because of work and socials). Every week, my mum takes my nephew swimming for his lessons but they’re able to play in the pool before hand. I was super excited and messaged my partner for his opinion to which he only responded “maybe”. Again, I don’t want him to miss any of our daughters ‘firsts’ but I’m starting to feel restricted, like I can only do things with his permission. I’m starting to dislike him because of these feelings, and I feel like it’s just another thing against him and our relationship at this point. I want us to feel like a team, and I respect his input as her dad, but it just feels so one sided, like everything has to be in his terms. I do love him, and just wish we could find our groove because right now, I’m struggling to see a viable future for our family. I guess I just needed to vent, but also wanted some advice. I would usually ask my mum for advice, but things between him and my mum are tricky at the minute. That’s even one of his complaints about me now, and I don’t want to cause any more arguments or problems between us.