What do you think is the psychology behind people who always talk abt hanging out but always end up cancelling or not following through?

Social anxiety Agoraphobia Panic attacks Depression Body dysmorphia Separation Anxiety Ditching last minute because a better opportunity came up.

For me, if I cancel, I have good reason. I suffer from health conditions that some days I wake up and it’s a big fat nope 🙂‍↔️ for getting out of bed that day Anxiety plays a role for me too.

Anxiety.

Sadly me as an individual. Maybe things just don't work out. But mainly anxiety or other health related issues. If not this then they're just bad at planning/following through which again probably stems from other life discomfort/trauma

It's nothing against you or your family I promise

I feel guilty all the time I've even ruined friendships doing this but it's just almost impossible to get away from

I didn't mean to click just making conversation but it does stem from this connection

I had really bad social anxiety a few years back. I was trying really hard to get out of it so I would make plans with people and ultimately I would cancel because I'd start to panic thinking of all the situations where I'd say or do something embarrassing. It's nothing against you at all. That kind of thinking becomes all consuming and it makes it difficult to overcome and rationalize that you'll be safe, etc. I've since gotten over this and now am able to follow through with plans, I just know that I have to protect my space and know that it's okay to say no to an invitation, or not be constantly making plans to keep friends. I also have chronic health issues that occasionally hold me back from doing things, but thankfully that's rare.

In my current case I keep the talk minimal because I don’t want to remind them wait until I get my own place and nobody can tell me what to do and when lol. So yeah. I know they want to see me and I sacrifice myself to see them but it would be drama free if I get my shit together first. Then follow thru otherwise it’s just talk. It’s just talk until actions happen. I had to stop seeing them because of the drama I have to deal with

SOCIAL ANXIETY. I don’t have anxiety. And out of hundreds of playdates and meets over the years, I’ve rarely ever cancelled and if I have I’ve proven it in some way like one time my car wouldn’t start just as we were about to leave I kept turning the key and ignition wouldn’t start, I recorded that and sent it to her. Another time I couldn’t even find my car key coz the day before I was in the driveway vacuuming and washing the car so the key ended up on the grass under a box, I immediately rescheduled for 2 days later and we ended up meeting because I felt so bad for cancelling because I was also looking forward to it. For many people they have anxiety of meeting new people or just getting out of the house period. So I try to weed out the mums that don’t have social anxiety and meet them, the more extroverted mums… they usually have friends already though.

Maybe they’re tired leading up to the plans & can’t be bothered. Or social anxiety as others have said.