“This is not gonna last much longer”

My husband said to me today our relationship isn’t going to last much longer. Can you please tell me if I’m in the wrong. Some facts: - He works at an office every day. - I work from home and take care of our baby the whole time. ( a lot to juggle but I figure it out) - My birthday is on Friday and he is gonna be gone on a golf trip with his friends - he has a friend flying in on Thursday to go with him. - We went to the aquarium and my favorite restaurant to celebrate my birthday last weekend - My parents live states away. I do not have anyone down here that can watch our daughter. My parents come down a good amount to help me with work things, appointments and whenever I need someone to watch our daughter - I have recently released my husband doesn’t like my family. Every time they come down, I plan it around my husband not being here. - My husband has not been alone with our daughter for longer than 2 hours by himself but my parents have been alone with our daughter for 6+ hours - we just moved. I have to do all of the unpacking and I haven’t been able to get much done because I can only do it when my daughter is sleeping. - On Tuesday my daughter has an appointment 4 hours away So why my husband is mad: my parents are coming down on Thursday to be here so I’m not alone on my birthday and to come with me for my daughters appointment so I’m not alone driving the 4 hours. I didn’t realize his friend was staying with us on Thursday. He is mad that my parents are getting in on Thursday. He said he is gonna get a hotel room. He said my parents stay in the guest bedroom that has the couch and his friend gets the guest room with the bed if they have to get in on Thursday. I wanted to make both spaces nice for them all. He said I “try to ruin his day.” He doesn’t understand why I can’t go to the appointment by myself. He doesn’t understand why both my parents need to come. I don’t understand why he isn’t happy I have someone to help me. They are gonna chill with my daughter so I can finish unpacking too. I never get alone time so I was excited. Am I in the wrong?

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Ruined HIS day? 🙄 he’s an asshole for even making plans around your birthday. Whether or not you celebrated last weekend. He’s being very selfish bc his plans got slightly inconvenienced. You haven’t done anything wrong. Take the help he isn’t willing or is able to give.

It sounds like you’re just trying your best to do what you need to do! It totally doesn’t sound like you’re in the wrong. Like it’s your day coming up and not his. He should step up more and help out especially with unpacking and with your own child (I also deal with this some in my own relationship). My husband and parents have clashed a few times and my husband has said things about my parents but at the end of the day he knows they are my parents and his family too. He knows when they are here they are helping out and spending quality time with their grandchildren.

This is one of those situations where one person is like I’ve had enough when NEITHER of them are getting what they want, trying to say lowkey if you don’t get what you want it’s over when no one is getting what they want is such single minded thinking. He needs to realize you need help, you need a system and they can be more help than he can. Maybe he needs to hear that. Or maybe he’s right and it won’t last long but for several reasons and one being you can’t do this alone or in the middle of your supportive family and your husband

Truth be told , I’ve been in this situation….(in my opinion) he has something else going on … & he doesn’t want you to realize and he probably feels like people around you who loves you is going to tell you that . & another thing if it’s your birthday this weekend why is HE mad that your family is coming ???? Shit obviously he doesn’t want to be around for your birthday so why is he mad that they’re coming ; regardless if it’s for the appointment or not …. Then him saying “it’s not going to last much longer) I would’ve did him the honor of leaving while he’s out of town doing his “golfing”

Someone’s a spoiled man child. Looks like his parents catered to his needs and so are you. Also golfing on your birthday is insensitive. I don’t care if he took me on a vacation a week before just to GOLF on my day. Eww.

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