Stuck between a rock and a hard place
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Consider moving into your own place with your baby. And setting up a schedule and boundaries for dad to still watch and help.
@Monét yes he can still watch her but I’m unsure what he’ll do if I break it off and he doesn’t start his job till Monday.
@Alysse I do have my own spot it’s my name on the lease. He moved in with me it’s just more so getting the courage to tell him to leave and still needing that help so I can go to work, but he’s a real narcissist and I just don’t know what he’ll pull
Literally going through the same exact thing I have a really good job and he doesn’t work he watches the kids while I work and my family is also kind of far from me so I get where you are coming from but unfortunately for me I’m still tolerating this man until I can leave and it would of be easier if he could of been helping with bills then I could of been getting daycare for my kids but I already pay all the bills and adding daycare to would leave me to be broke
And I told him to leave one time while I was at work because I was tired of it and I meant for him to go once I got home and this man took my kids with him to his mothers house who lives 3 hours away and wouldn’t bring them back until I told him he could come home and he to is definitely a narcissist as well so please be careful how you handle the situation and be smart I also know when I leave I have to do it while he’s sleep or not around because he will make it so difficult and cause a big commotion
Men like that don’t care because they have nothing to lose and that’s exactly what he would tell me and I never paid attention to it until now he would always say “I’m nothing without my family” or “if I can’t have my family there’s no need for me to be alive” And my young childish self thought that was cute at the time but really it’s a red flag and I should of ran for the hills the first time he said it
@Kyilaa I’m so sorry that you’re going through this as well and yes I’m the one paying all the bills, using my car and paying for gas to go everywhere. I feel so weak but it’s like what can I do if my family is two hours away and trying to find childcare to at fits my budget while paying all these bills is nearly impossible. My family only solution is for me to come home and I don’t want to. I love what I do and I feel like once I get the necessary help to get assistance with childcare I can ask him to leave
Could he not still be childcare with you not together? Does he work?