Justified or abusive

My BD bought my child a blanket and saw a photo of another baby with it. He asked if it was her blanket so I lied and said I didn’t think so, knowing he wouldn’t like that. He said he knew I was lying so I said sorry that I shouldn’t have played dumb and said I didn’t know. He threw the blanket in the bin, he later tried to explain why he was so angry with me-he kept referring to the other baby as a c*** so I interrupted him and politely ask he doesn’t say that. He became more angry that I dared tell him how to talk when I had been the one to make him angry. He took the blanket and cut it up-told me to go and share it now and that he can’t trust me with anything to do with the baby. Am I just wrong and his reaction justified or is this bullying?

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I’d be waiting for him to leave and packing you and bubas stuff and running a mile. Why he would get jealous over the babies blankets being held by another baby is beyond me. Sounds as if he has sharing issues as well which is not something you want to teach a baby that sharing is not ok. Why wouldn’t he like another child holding it anyways he sounds abusive and controlling

wtf

What a horrible person. You deserve better.

Abuse 100%. All the drama for that? Who need that stress ?

@Marie my thoughts exactly

Save yourself the grief and pain I endured by leaving now! Mine was similarly abusive but it took 3-4 therapists over 8-9 yrs to tell me he’s abusive before I started to believe it. By then it became nearly impossible to leave.

You’re not wrong, and his reaction wasn’t justified. You owned up and apologized, but destroying the blanket, using that kind of language, and getting angry because you asked for basic respect — that’s not okay. That’s emotional abuse, not just anger. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. Trust your gut — this sounds like bullying, not love. And if I was you I’d leave as soon as possible

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