😭I know what I have to do...
So I'm now over 13 weeks pregnant with my last baby and I've been with bd for almost a year.... I have caught him texting an ex over and over after I told him to stop and why..... She hurt me and him( it was a poly yeah never again) so anyway I explained to him that in my eyes it's cheating..... Any who he went on to say he does it because it's what he witnessed when he was growing up.(He's done this with previous ex's in our relationship) So I personally texted the girl to get evidence to show him and he couldn't deny it. I basically told the girl if he has her in his life when or baby( hopefully a girl) he would not be apart of her life if she's in the picture ( trust me I have very good reasons) the girl goes on to say that she wants him to be her daughters father figure. I said that's between them two I want no part of that. But he will not be apart of our daughters life if she is in the picture. So far my bd had no idea this conversation took place because she won't send me proof. She is adamant on continuing to talk to him no matter how he is affected by all of this..... I know what I have to do but with no family no friends no support system I'm scared and I shouldn't be . . All the proof is on his phone in his telegram app the recent conversation any way between him and her..... But ik he won't show me...I guess I just didn't know how to approach it the adult way and not the childish way..... Please just advice and no judgement
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If he starts to protest and/or ‘request proof,’ just tell him we both know that you’re doing it. I don’t need any proof. I know it. You know it. I don’t need to show you anything. (You don’t say whether or not he knows that you’re pregnant, but if you’re not planning to allow him to have any part of baby’s life, I guess I just wouldn’t bring her up unless he does).
Simply leave his ass .
@Alissa I have no family no friends trying to figure out my living situation.
Thank you for affirmation on what I need to do
The most freeing thing that you can do for yourself is to set boundaries that make you feel comfortable and let go of the need to control others.
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I’m not quite sure what you’re asking for…..? Advice on how to tell him that it’s over……? I mean, if it was me, I would just tell him “I’ve asked you repeatedly to not speak with this particular woman any more, as, in my eyes, it is cheating. You have continued to do so. You are a grown man, it is absolutely your decision if you want to continue to speak with her or not, but every action has a consequence and the consequence of you choosing to keep this woman as a part of your life, is that you lose me as a part of it.” Then (depending on your living situation), simply let him know that you will be moving out tomorrow/HE will be moving out tomorrow/Tomorrow you’ll swing by to grab your things/Tomorrow he can swing by to grab his things. I mean, I don’t think that there really needs to be too much to it. He knows what’s going on. He’s fully aware of what he’s doing and how it makes you feel, so quite frankly, quick and simple seems like the way to go in my eyes. 🤷🏻♀️