Partner cheated while I was pregnant

Get rid of him! You don’t deserve that, sounds like an excuse to me… x

Cheating is cheating. He did it out of anger. I’m sure there will be many times if you stay together where he gets angry or frustrated… is he going to cheat each time that happens? The baby is here now so is he keen to be involved or just feeling obligated? If the latter, send him packing. You don’t need someone who’s only half in. If he does want to be involved maybe he should consider some therapy to find some more constructive ways to deal with his emotions?

What if you were to cheat because you wanted the baby and he didn't and you had an abortion? Would he be accepting of that reason if the tables were turned

It’s not your fault, he did the deed, he should know better. I wouldn’t keep a man like this in my life. If he only cares about himself, and complains, then he claims to love you, he definitely doesn’t love you at all, pretty much so disrespectful he cheated and giving rubbish excuses. Please get him out of your life and claim child maintenance asap.

How can he put the blame on you, you both willingly had unprotected sex knowing the potential outcome. He sounds like a d*ck and just making excuses for his heartless actions

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. So many red flags, does he also treat baby differently? I would stop having sex with him and come up with a plan.

So he has sex with someone he's recently met/got together with... makes a baby, as can happen, doesn't want it and then to ease his suffering he goes straight to having sex with someone else... doesn't seem logical to me. What if he just doubled up? I'm sorry you're going through this, personally I don't think I could handle this. You're strong and undeserving of that treatment 💖

So let's dissect this all I heard was...... I don't really want our child I will go on to cheat again because I still don't want our child I'm a good liar I'm so sorry but the stress without him may be easier, yeah you could potentially work through cheating but not wanting a child, the result of "impulsiveness" and not wanting to take responsibility or accountability screams immaturity. I commend you for stepping up but he told you he didn't want a child and it sounds like it hasn't changed 11weeks on you have to take responsibility for that and do what's best for your child before they get to a place of understanding.

So many red flags! It’s not your fault, and he cannot/shouldn’t put the blame on you! You deserve better than this.

This is so awful I’m sorry you’re going through this, my toddlers dad cheated on me whilst I was pregnant and he wanted our son we also hadn’t been together long before I fell pregnant. I left him just after my sons first birthday as he kept cheating and manipulating me into thinking it was my fault he was doing it, honestly leaving him was the best decision for me and I wish I had done it sooner. Cheater is a cheater it’s as simple as that and for him to cheat on you whilst you’re pregnant with his child is the lowest of lows and I never forgave my sons dad for doing that to me there will always be negative feelings towards him because of it no matter how hard you try to get rid of them take it from someone that really tried to make it work with a cheater. Feel free to message if you need to talk 🫶🏻

Girl get him gone! Do you really want to force that man to live a life you know he doesn’t want? You deserve to be happy and be with someone you know is all in

If he doesn’t want this life, don’t ruin yours by trying to make him into a good man. You deserve to be happy and baby deserves a father who wants to be in their life. He cheated because he felt something, that’ll happen again, and he’s pulling away blaming baby for lack of intimacy.