Feeling guilty

Definitely not alone! It comes in peaks and troughs but the older they get the easier it gets. It’s good that he speaks to you and I think communication is the way forward - it worked for us! Xx

Hey, I can’t say I have experienced this as this is my first pregnancy and I have always had a high sex drive, however I have heard of other mamas experiencing the same thing. How you are feeling is completely valid ❤️ and of course how your partner is feeling is valid too. I think it is good that your partner has expressed how they are feeling and that you have also been honest too. It sounds like you are both dealing with the situation in a healthy way by communicating. You can’t force yourself into intimacy, and it must be hard with baby here now to have alone time. Maybe when it’s possible you could schedule a date night with your partner so that you can have some time together and hopefully, for you gain back that connection that may help you with intimacy. And it doesn’t always have to be sex, even more time spent cuddling or kissing or just speaking to each other could help build your connection in other ways while the relationship is in a season of less sexual intimacy xxx

I'm a year pp and I'm the same. The way I see it is that our bodies only want sex because our bodies want to get pregnant so once we've had a baby and are caring for one then we just need to focus on that. My sex drive will come back again, like when my period comes back as this is when I'll be able to get pregnant so all those hormones will return. Perhaps explaining this to your partner, and that many many other mums are the same, might help?

I've been exactly the same we've had so many fights recently and they're all due to the lack of sex. I constantly feel touched out and my sex drive has completely gone I don't know why but I share your feeling on the guilt.

Are you breastfeeding? i am in the same boat as you. My son is 9 months and I have had no libido since he was born. I really believe it is mostly due to the breast feeding. Message me if you want. I know the guilt is real.

@Trinah @Tee @Hazel @Katie ahh thankyou all, It makes me feel a lot better knowing that I’m not the only one! It just makes me feel so bad. I hope one day it will come back, I think we need to make time to maybe have more dates and actually make time do things just us 2

@Mar im not breastfeeding anymore, when i was I thought maybe that could be why but then when I stopped nothing changed 😩

You're not alone. I'm currently pregnant with my second and our intimacy has been very sporadic and low due to lack of sleep and attending to the needs of our first. We always joke about how he would tell his work mate he's lucky to even get it once a month. 😂 Our first is now 2y8m. If he's putting in the work like you, he'll feel it as well.