Marriage ending and co parenting.

Bookie what exactly are you looking for? Guidance? Bbg your actions clearly had consequences life will go on & maybe you’ll look at your choices & do better in the future. If he really loves those kids he’ll make it work whether he calls &texts everyday or whatever the case may be. But you dead ass in the wrong here. Whether you’re sorry you got caught or not him leaving is justifiable. Do better, if not got yourself for your kids. Okay?

You definitely were in the wrong and if you take accountability and learn how to communicate then you’ll be good in your next relationship. Even if that takes you to be in therapy

Don’t worry about what he’s doing as well because he’s now not your worry anymore. Focus on them kids rather he help or not because it’s about to effect them kids more than you think it’s effecting both of you two. Y’all adults so y’all can handle it but them kids, that’s about to shape them. If anything feel for your kids. Your actions affected your kids as well. If you were really serious about your relationship you would have a relationship with God but in the meantime he can’t try to hurt you because he’s hurt cuz whole time he thinks he’s hurting you and he’s really hurting his kids.

I know I was in the wrong. Yet I deleted knowing what I did also affected me but yet I chose to do even tho yes my ex made a choice to text me but idk how to tell my husband at the time and yes he was in the military and yes everything I did I told him that how much I fucked up in our marriage but I also was going the person stuff of the passing of my mother and us losing our children but now we have them back and he chose to go ahead think it okay go straight to allowing her see our children. He never like therapist. He been through a lot as child too through foster care to being adopted by them affects his way of living as he gown up. He want me to move on and find someone but no I’m not doing that doing everything i can to save myself and wait for him even tho he may think right now he has a life with person who clearly with her mother at the age of 26 and for me no parents but doing everything I can to be there for our children and. Right now I learned my mistake and my actions

Right now is where I feel like I’m doing the right things on showing him that I can fix even it take awhile for him but I’m patiently waiting and seeking help from god to help me out with everything.

I’m already moved forward on doing things for myself and the children. I got therapy but aunt chase her away and now I don’t have a therapist and I got my children in school and services and like I applied for assistance and interview for a job and another job that I already have but just need to apply even tho I got the job but yeah and last thing is find a babysitter for my second child. Yes it may be hard to for me see him but be all that he is in La la la land right now but once he leave I think it will kinda help me a little by little on healing. Yes I gone out and do things to help me out once I’m back home and he here things change putting a fake smile or laugh is not talking anymore it sucks.

If you really cared abt your marriage to begin with you wouldn’t of put yourself in a predicament to be unfaithful in the first place & using your mothers death as a way to try and justify your actions is not fair to him. I think you need to accept your fuck up & allow him to move on. No one here is gonna validate your hurt feelings when you were the one that caused them in the first place not to be harsh. He has a right to move on & not deal with you anymore regardless of your kids you hurt him & even if he does decide to forgive you that takes time. You should leave it alone bc holding onto him is only gonna continue to hurt you him & your kids. Stop concerning yourself on what he’s doing whom he’s doing it with you broke his heart & trust love.

I’m not looking for a new relationship or one in couple months or maybe with in two years or three then I’ll consider it on a new relationship.

@Jy’Tiayana if he had so many concerns, he should have spoke about them to me instead keeping it inside and ignoring it. I could have changed the way my actions were then but nope but now I’ve changed a lot and he sees it but me finding myself and doing for myself while I’m fighting for him even the with this person. He rather keep my brother in his life but everyone else in my family is out of the picture including me but strictly on our children. Can’t do that while he here constantly talking to her throughout the day and night not wanting to give up and do what he need to do.

Just needs to vent to cause I don’t have anyone to vent and trust anymore. I only vent to my parents at the cemetery. I pray day and night and yes he forgives me for everything I have done.

Well I’m here for you to vent to, just wanna let you know as if I was your friend my opinion. Don’t take what we say to heart just take heed of what we’re saying. Sit and think about things

@Jy’Tiayana thank you I appreciate it I don’t want it to heart and know it your guys opinions it that I have high hopes and fighting for my marriage hope he will realized that the grass is isn’t greener other side cause they only talked for two months and through gaming council and Text, FaceTime and doing long distance while she living in Canada and him moving to Washington and he going to be busy with working and I know I just do my gut is telling me it is. He all I care and love still I’m not going to choose run away but like choosing to move forward with healing and fight for him and like to see if things will actually change and hope for the best to come back and let me create a new start and didn’t do to continue life with him and our kids.