Marriage

This is going to sound very vain and truly don’t mean to be rude. But has there been a change to your body?

Mmm very limited information. It could be a lot of things. Is there any possibility he could be watching porn or getting his sexual needs met somewhere else? Is he depressed? Just a few guesses

I gained weight with pregnancy but lost most of it. I still have about 20lbs before I’m back where I was when I got pregnant. He said he isn’t watching porn or interested in anyone else etc. I just don’t know how to help our situation.

I’ve asked him all those questions. If he’s depressed “no”, if he’s still attracted to me “yes” etc He just said since he isn’t working out he doesn’t feel a desire to have sex. But this isn’t normal to reject your wife over & over again. I know his job is a lot and can be stressful. Just hate that he isn’t connecting with me physically.

My husband does say the same thing about himself. Since I’ve lost all the baby weight and more he himself doesn’t feel physically good about himself. The way I compare it is when I don’t feel good about myself I don’t want sex he’s probably going through something with himself were he doesn’t feel good enough himself to have sex with you if that makes sense

Similar to the post above - in an earlier part of our relationship (pre-baby), my SO was heavier and wasn't working out (and he previously had been very active) and he explicitly told me he would be more 'ready to go' if he felt he was in better shape. Once he started working out again there was a definite difference. I'm pretty sure there are some studies about how exercise increases libido. If it's possible maybe try to create time where he can workout? See if that helps?

I’ve been going through the same thing with my husband, but I’ve started feeling the same as well. We’ve talked about it, I’ve cried with him about it, and we expressed we almost feel like we’re asexual. Like it’s hard being mom or dad and still being a husband and wife. He’s been going back to the gym and we’ve started going on walks together asa family. I’ve tried hugging him more and showing I want to hold hands or be close because I wasn’t feeling intimately connected to him to even desire him. So finally last night I just jumped in bed with him naked and woke him up. He went with it and we finally had sex after a 3 month dry patch. Just keep trying different things. Something will eventually evoke a change

Thanks everyone💕

I gave this advice to another girl but her hubby’s problem was porn. Anyways we sometimes have this problem where he’s not in the mood for weeks. I would literally feel so rejected and unloved but he would remind that he does love me he just doesn’t want sex right now. So instead of being soppy over it I just decided to put that energy into our friendship. Making him laugh, him making me laugh. Cooking our favorite meals for one another. Doing small tasks for one another. Actually treating him like a friend. If you know ur man is loyal then there’s nothing to worry about. Eventually my husband comes around and we have sex for days in a row, or I come around for intimacy. Sex is great and important but it won’t be there forever, our friendship with our spouse is much more long lasting.