How are we coping with tantrums?!

Hey! Sorry to hear that, it's really hard dealing with it whilst pregnant. I hold the boundary, let him have the time to feel his emotions - quite often ignore the behaviour, take things away that can be used as mini missiles or to hit with. Try and explain why I've said no (I'm finding he understands a lot more now). When he's calmed down I try and give him a cuddle. These things are all so child dependent though. Hang in there though, I'm sure you're doing a great job. If we are all honest, I imagine most mums have had times where we don't enjoy being around our kids - especially when there's other things going on! There will be a period of readjustment when your baby comes along, but it will pass. Try to include your older one as much as possible, his little world is going to turn on its head and that's a lot for a tiny brain to handle. When number 2 came, I found the overstimulation to be huge. But it passes- but useful to find ways to manage that. Sending strength! You've got this 💪

Hey I’m going through this at the moment I literally walk on egg shells around my little girl 🙈 I have tried cuddling her but it makes it worse so I just let her have her moment and then go pick her up and give her a cuddle or try and distract her with something. I can’t imagine how you’re dealing with it all whilst being pregnant. You’re a super mum

Hi, thanks so much for the post, I am feeling exactly the same way with our boy. And we sometimes don't have any idea why he is having a tantrum, that's so hard. I can't stand his winging - been all day long (we're in Australia so it's night time). Sooo so hard. So I don't have an answer, but I fully sympathize

I redirect the tantrums and also ask my daughter if she would like a love (which is her language is a cuddle) and she’ll often come and sit with me for a few minutes to calm down. If the tantrum repeats I will say “No thank you. You’re okay” or “Can you show mammy what you want?” while also redirecting her to a few of her toys and giving her the chance to explain in her own way what it is that she’s crying for x

It’s so hard and especially as you’re heavily pregnant! But definitely totally normal. I will try to distract but like you said, sometimes distraction will not help and I’ve found if I let him ride it out rather than distracting, it’s over quicker. If he is having a throw himself on the floor tantrum, I will make sure he is safe, there isn’t anything he can bump his head on and I’ll kneel/sit next to him and talk gently to him. Usually things like “I know, I understand you are frustrated/angry/upset, I’m here.” Rub his back or stroke his hair. I would say 8 times out of 10, after a couple of minutes, he will then move closer to me and want a cuddle to help him regulate and then he’s much easier to distract from there. The other thing I’ve noticed will distract him is our dog. So if we are in total meltdown, if he sees her or she brings a toy to him, that snaps him out of it far quicker than me or his dad can!