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Just an additional point. How are you towards your baby when leaving him? Do you pander him and say “awww baby don’t cry?”. I worked in schools for 7 years and the children that cried were the ones whose mothers pandered them and made the situation worse. Some mothers just thrived off their child crying so they felt validation and would fully feed into it. The best thing to do when leaving a child is to be positive, smile and say that you’ll be back. When you make the departure a positive experience your child will feel it’s a positive experience.
I hope some of this helps and wish you the very best 🙏
We incorporated independent time from birth and made it habitual, so now at 15 mo our son is pretty good about alone time. Start small. As a newborn he loved his swing chair, and I'd do things/clean, in that room or the next room and leave the radio or TV on while he just sat in his chair.
There’s many different ways to tackle this but the most effective is a technique my mum was taught with my oldest brother. Start small. Leave them in another room and say to them mummy is just going to go do some washing and I’ll be back. Then go do the washing and come back. For them it’s all about trust. If they’ve always had you by their side and suddenly you’re not it’s going to be very upsetting. Try leaving your child for small amounts of times to do small tasks and build up to larger things. Also, how do you feel when leaving your child? Are you anxious? Worried he will get upset? Children heavily feed off their mother. If you’re feeling this way he will be picking up on this. Consider how you are departing from him. You need to do this positively. Smile and say “mummy will be back soon”. If you’re happy about it you’re feeding positive energy to your child they will feel it’s a positive experience too.