Baby hates daddy?!

So my son is 3 months old and I swear it feels like 9/10 when my husband/the father holds his son he will start to scream and cry and carry on as if he is being hurt. My husband/the father has NEVER hurt his son in his short life (I’ve had way more accidental boo boos given to him). I need help! I know it’s natural for my son to feel safer with me and so on but that’s the thing, my son will calm down and be calm with his grandparents, his uncles, his aunts you name them he will be calm ( mind you only the grandparents and one aunt has had children of their own but all have been around kids like my husband has. He has more experience being around babies than me). But if dad holds onto him he starts to get very upset! Like I don’t know if it’s because my husband won’t hold the baby in ways I know he likes or if it’s something else. Please help as it’s starting to hurt me mentally knowing that my son won’t calm down with his father need dad’s help because I need time sometimes. But having my son constantly cry because he’s with his dad instead of me, it’s just starting to hurt. What can my husband and I start doing so my son will gain trust and be calm with him as well?

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The sentence that sticks out to me here is your husband won’t hold your baby in the ways you know he likes. I don’t get that? Surely that’s the problem right there? Why won’t your husband hold his baby in a way that the baby likes to be held and would settle in?

My son did this for like 2 months. And last week he suddenly ( at 4 months) decided dad’s cool as long as I’m in the room. If I leave he cries and screams until my husband literally FaceTimes me at the gym or something. I’ve been assured that it gets better and there will be times it’s momentarily harder. But mostly it’s going to get better.

I wrote a similar post on here when by son was similar age asking for help as to why he screamed whenever dad held him, he’s now 9 months old and dad is the best person in the world (after me ofc!) and has loved spending time with his dad for a about 4 months. He still prefers me when he’s tired or feeling rubbish but I promise it gets better! I think until they become more aware of the world and interested in things they just want the only safe place they know, mum xx

My boy wasn’t like this and I do feel it’s likely because his dad would do equal amounts for him - half the night shift, feeds, changing nappies, cuddles etc so he just saw us both as trustworthy people from the get go Then at 9 months he got very clingy to me probably because my partners working and he spends most of his time with me, he’s only like it if I’m in the room so maybe try leave the room and let them have 1:1 time?

I think its important to let your partner care for baby. When baby is upset its really easy for us to just take over...but they need to develop their own relationship and your partner needs to learn how to comfort baby...itll take longer and won't be how you do it but it's important none the less. The more he does it the more baby will grow accustomed to him

When my daughter was around that age, nobody could hold her but me. She just refused to let anyone, sometimes especially her dad. Then she went through a phase where anyone could hold her, like literally anyone lol. Then another super clingy phase. And now, she’s 2 1/2, she lets the people she knows and likes hold her.

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