Do you care if your partner watches porn?

Im pregnant with my second and very nauseas and my husband has a high sex drive but i just dont feel like sex. It's been since I think Feb that we've had sex bc this pregnancy is just kicking my butt, I tell him to go for it. I dont find it cheating, heck when he was gone on deployment last year that was my go to. 🤷🏼‍♀️ We even talk about the porn we seen and show the other if we think the other will enjoy that video too. 🤣

@Brianna @Brianna I think I’m just really insecure and a total hypocrite because I’ve started watching porn again out of spite knowing he watches it a lot. I feel like my problem is he watches it more than we have sex. He says sometimes he just wants to do it alone but I have a hard time understanding that due to the fact we don’t have sex often.. I’m also pregnant with my second, my husband goes on deployments and I’ve have been horny af. I caught him in the shower today and it just made my blood boil because I’m like hello I’m right here wtf?? Idk I’m trying to not care so much and I told him I want to know what he’s watching and I think it would be good to share what I like with him too.

Yeah, its def alot to get used to especially if it's not the norm for you. Like im not a very sexual person to begin with so him having that too fall back on is something I like also bc I can go many months without having sex lol. And with you being horny and everything have you tried to entice him? Like you start the mood or are you waiting on him to make the move? Bc I find guys can be completely oblivious to when we want to have sex. 😂🫠

It's not that I care that HE watches porn. But personally I've been on a journey of realizing how bad and inhumane the porn industry is. And how it desensitizes you emotionally and can really fuck with your mental health. So I'm more against porn in general for everyone than it being about my spouse. Also for me it falls into normalization of addiction like alcohol. Where "everyone does it" makes it easy to not admit you have an addiction or problem. For me watching porn is a symptoms of something bigger going on in society that we need to address.

It never bother me but after I gave birth my sex drive has gone low and I don’t feel like it most times so I really don’t care if he’s watching it or not

I mean we’ve both at least let on our mindset is pretty straightforward towards one another we have eyes only for each other, we have our own vids etc. I have issues w the industry it enables, the image it creates in the consumers head, and the fact of wanting to look at another’s body in that way. Just not cool w it, I don’t wanna look at others why would I want my partner to I want us both same page but respect each other. If he chooses to, well then that’s a convo for us prob ending in a change or split imo🤷🏻‍♀️

No neither of us watch as we consider it cheating, also because it’s just very unhealthy.

I don't care, but he doesn't watch often, we probably watch together more than he does by himself, he prefers my nude pics while masterbating if im not available. And we have sex every day, or every other day

@Marina 🙌🏻this

No I don’t care. We have a great sex life 🤷🏼‍♀️ no issues over here.

This must be the most asked question on this app 🫣 Nope I don’t care if he watches it.

No I don’t care, I have no idea if he does watch it but I would assume he does.

@Brianna yeah I suppose I could make more effort. I just am getting to the whale stage of pregnancy where I feel like a whale and it’s hard to see him looking at these perfectly flat stomached girls and I’m over here looking like 🐳

Oooh okok gotcha. Yeah I wouldn't want to make more effort if I was in the whale stage either. 😅 hell im only 16 weeks right now and if dont wanna make the effort. 😂 This is probably gonna be a long pregnancy for him. 🤣🤣😅

I personally have a lot of trauma around porn from my first sons father being crazy addicted and finding his fathers (sons granddad) stash of child pornography. So because of that I don’t like my husband watching it and I don’t think anyone really should be. It’s crazy addicting, creates a false reality and builds a wall between partners. Now if a couple agrees together to watch it happily that’s their choice but be mindful of where the content comes from.

Never used to care but now its a no. We have a rule he has to tell me within 24 hour if he has watched it. This is his decision to do and not mine. Him not watching it has dramatically improved my husbands mental health.

He doesn’t watch porn but we don’t have much sex lol I’m sure hed like to have much more

My husband doesn't think it fits into a marriage. We have sex 1/2x a week

We have sex almost daily but I don’t care if he watches it, I watch it too and sometimes we watch together lol but just because we do doesn’t mean other people HAVE to say it’s okay. It’s all what works for your relationship!

@Brianna omg finally !! Someone understands.

@Savannah and you ! I like yall ! 🤣🤣

People with trauma I def understand and don’t judge yall for that . I hate that trauma or insecurities have put yall in a headspace to not trust the porn overall . I think to each its own as long as it’s an understanding within the relationship and it’s still intimacy within the relationship with each other . It’s horrible when people get too attached to porn that they won’t even be Intimate with their partner or the partner is an after thought to the porn. :(

I’ve never asked nor felt the need to ask. Doesn’t bother me at all.

never asked, don’t care

We don't consider it cheating, we both do it occasionally, and we still have sex regularly. I think we both would have a problem with it if it were impacting our intimacy

Not at all it actually turns me on watching him enjoy it ❤️

@Olivia same!! I agree

Wouldn’t make me jealous. But I think it can easily be a bad habit. I prefer we don’t watch porn, just as I prefer we don’t gamble and do drugs

Depends how often. If it was everyday I’d care as that’d be a bit obsessive but other than that no I don’t care as I’ve watched it lol 😂 I don’t ask but it depends what he’s watching. If it was weird stuff I’d be bothered.

I have quotes from what we all hear growing up I don’t read the Bible but is common sense Bible says he shouldn’t lust over another..Seventh Commandment, Jesus says, “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matt. 5:28). The Quran addresses the issue of looking at others, particularly in the context of modesty and avoiding behaviors that could lead to temptation or harm. Surah An-Nur (24:30-31): This verse is a key reference point for understanding the Quran's teachings on looking at others. It instructs men to cast down their gaze and guard their private parts. It also instructs women to do the same, and to not display their adornment except to certain individuals (husbands, family members, etc.) I should have known why these books say the same thing. You know he is cheating if he is microcheating.

I'm really not that fussed if he watches it or not. As long I am the only female he physically touches. He can do what he wants in his free time. I'm not adverse to a smutty novel myself so it would be quite hypocritical of me 🤣

Everyone is a different person, and everyones reasons for watching it are different. The reason people watch it is where the issue could/ would come from. In my relationship we both watch it, and its no problem or hinderance to our intimacy. However if someone watches it because they are addicted to orgasms, or because they arent attracted to thier spouse, or they are bored with thiee sex life, or affraid/ tired of rejection it wont go well. If you watch it just to get in the mood or spice things up or self care while your SO is unavailiable then its not going to be an issue.

We both don’t like porn & talked about it early on in our relationship. We both think it’s gross and unnecessary when you’re in a committed relationship