Am I wrong?

Okay so this post is about my boyfriend and not my son’s dad!! Sex is something I really enjoy doing with my bf but I’m a bit more out of my shell than he is. I’ve asked him if we could try some things like spanking, pulling my hair a little bit and like name calling. I’m into rough sex as well but I’m not going to force him to do anything that makes him uncomfortable at all. Whenever we have sex he doesn’t make like any noise at all and I’ll look back and he’s just like putting work in so it kinda throws me off like damn is he not enjoying his self or is he just mute. I’ve expressed to him that maybe he could work on being more vocal as it turns me on and he proceeds to text me this.

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Can I ask how old you both are?

Why can’t u simply say what u enjoy without him getting so deeply offended?? And why do u keep apologizing! U haven’t done anything wrong boo!

I don't know if he is younger than you but he sounds so immature, incapable of communicate his needs well or trying to manipulate you into doing what he wants, like if you are supposed to know without him even telling you. Don't accept less than what you deserve or you will get less than you settled for.

@Ruthie Arantza I’m 22 and he’s 25

@Star I’ve brought up “the noise” more than once so I figured that he may have told me that he wasn’t comfortable with it and I just didn’t remember 🤷🏽‍♀️we barely ever go back and forth

You deserve better babygirl🫶🏽 I hope u get it

Your not wrong. Your just telling him what you like, that doesn't mean you want him to be like your exes. That's crazy that he even suggested that. We all have what makes us turn on and stuff. I dont think he should've said that just cause your expressing what turns you on.

I think that you are doing the right thing by asking for what you want/like. He seems to be insecure and closed off. If you try and have this conversation in person (after setting the right space and time) and he reacts this way, I'd say you guys are probably just not that compatible. He is a but old to be acting this way

To me he just seems shy and you are more experienced and he’s embarrassed to express his feelings is my personal opinion

Als9, let me add. I think as far as "sexual requests" good this is so not that serious lol I remember telling my husband the same years ago and he immediately let go lol some guys feel self conscious going making noises. All he had to hear was that it turned me on and now he knows exactly what to do when he knows I'm close to the big O 😉

I'm with you, I need to hear some noise. It's so simple. He's insecure.

@Ruthie Arantza the noise is more for me than him tbh. I feel like if I’m not hearing anything then that must mean I’m not doing something right lol😵‍💫

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